I don’t know if it’s my illness but I severely lack being able to make lasting friendships. Never been approached by guys. Maybe I look unapproachable. I find finding and making friends difficult cos I know they’ll leave. And hence the reason for finding my friend in a relationship. To cure my loneliness. And I know he won’t leave. Is it so wrong?
maybe you feel lonely cos you are not friend with your self. if you make peace with your self maybe you won’t need people much.
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I have no loneliness problems.
True I have no friends.
I socialize almost only with my parents.
But my condition is so poor that I can’t do any better.
My more urgent priorities(over socialization) are trying to improve my functioning, and getting on disability.
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I think its the illness.
I’ve got a loving husband,
A couple real friends, and tons of people I could go have coffee with right now,
But I am just devastatingly lonely.
Even when I’m close to people, I feel like there is an entire alternate reality I observe that they can never be a part of or understand, and that keeps them distant.
Do you know what I mean?
I’m not sure how to overcome that, but I do think a lot of loneliness stems from the illness, so don’t be so hard on yourself.
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Welcome to the lonely club
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I go cinema on my own and parks on my own. I like it. But it would be nice if I wasn’t constantly on my own. My brain needs stimulation. I want to be able to learn new things , see new places with someone.
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You look at how you are with your friends and how others are with their friends and it’s not the same ! Is that what you mean ?
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I went cinema on own this afternoon
I saw "the snowman"
I like go to town or cinema where there are other people
Passes the time
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I had a friend years ago who met her boyfriend at the bus stop
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That’s so cute 
Maybe join a club of some sort with like minded people.
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Might look for a mandala meet up group all of them will be ladies I’m guessing but it would be nice to have something in common.
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Kind of,
Really, I mean there is so much of me I think people are incapable of connecting with that I avoid getting close to people.
The few people I am very close with, like my husband and a couple friends,
I feel like they don’t know me that well and that’s the only reason they want to be around me at all.
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@anon80629714 maybe I’m a little like you. Except a lot of my being alone is because I don’t have any access to people. I mean I don’t see many ways to get in social situations. I don’t know if the normies start conversations buying groceries that lead to friendship or not, but I don’t think I can do that.
If what the last part of your post is referring to is that you may want your friend to be in a romantic relationship so that you have someone who won’t leave, I don’t think that’s wrong at all.
I too have no friends. I had some a few years ago, but I think only one of them was actually ever my friend. He had no interest in meeting with me in person anymore despite me trying several times so I stopped talking to him. He apparently has undiagnosed mental illness, he said he had bipolar. Maybe that had something to do with it. I have Sza with bipolar, but I don’t treat people like that.
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I don’t get why you find it difficult to make friends. You seem kind and personable, who wouldn’t want to be friends with you? Did you have friends at uni? Lonliness comes with having an MI but lots of people with them have friends.
I have them but I don’t feel the same connection or bond others can feel. I can’t get close cos I know they’ll leave.
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Yeah, I can understand that completely. But why would they leave? Is it because they might think you are too quiet perhaps. I mean introversion is common among lots of people but you seem to be able to talk online very well. Is talking face to face more of a challenge?
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We are all so alone.
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Hello ish.
I’m isolated too. And sometimes I feel lonely. I worry about growing old alone etc. But often I realise it’s just because I prefer being alone in a way. I struggle around others.
Is there a group you can join or club just once a week? Walking or something?
I was very isolated for a very very long time. But the past year I started out once a week going walking with a group. Then I started a charity group doing arts and crafts group with others once a week.
It’s not much. It’s all I do. Just a couple of times a week with others.
If your under a mental health team they know of groups. Or your GP might.
Leisure centres have groups. And depending what town your in they will have things going on like coffee mornings walking groups or book clubs. Depending what your interested in.
I feel the same ish <3 You’re not alone.