My wife told me this morning she doesn’t want me coming in her room to talk to her anymore…she said after seven pm…she said, after seven pm, but I have been so hurt I stopped going in her room today and so far she is happy with it…she has a past of abuse and much other stuff I can’t talk about , but I see this as the end of my getting to talk to her very much…I will stay with her until one of us dies, but my heart aches today.
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What kind of bs is that?
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she tries to watch shows all the time on her lap top plus she takes care of the chihuahua during the day so I think she is just irritated right now…but it feels final.
That’s stupid. Flat out stupid. And abusive.
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she likes being alone…not me, I like being together.
And I don’t want to hear about taking care of a damn chihuahua as being hard. I take care of 7 other people, 2 are disabled, 2 german shepherds, a ferret, lizard, and a ton of cats.
Was reminded to add the chickens.
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Wow. You have your hands full!! Admirable @ZombieMombie
he’s not a burden at all…you’re right…he sleeps day and night usually…I d k…I just feel down …there are a lot of intimacy issues in our marriage…
She probably just needs some space give it time
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I do and I still try to spend time with my husband. 23 years!
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There’s also the partridge in a pear tree every December.
Jokes aside, you do everything you said and on less benefits than most.
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Others here, do too. And none of us push partners away.
There’s more to it. Has to be.
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No, just their parents.
Damn good fights about money lately though.
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I go in her room about ten or eleven times during the day just to kiss her, or talk…she always has to stop her shows that she watches and has to stay in bed because she hasn’t got therapy for her back yet…so she just is in a lot of pain and wants to be left alone…I get it…I just need to see her that much…I don’t like this new soliutude and will probably just go in there anyways…just a lot less.
Oh. Poor thing. That pause button is painful.
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thank you @anon4362788 I need to hear that. I wish it was different, but she does a lot in the house and it kills her back…she trembles all the time…she refuses oxycotin or pain meds like that…she’s on celebrex.
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Have you communicated to her that you feel lonely?
she says I am needy…she doesn’t get it I don’t think…she’s kind of disconnected when it comes to feeling bad for me I think…thinks I should toughen up.
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Your wife is in pain all the time and spends all her time in her bedroom. The more time alone she spends then the more things irritate her. She is the one with serious problems.
She needs to make quality time for you both
She also needs to see doctor regularly to manage her condition
You could try writing her a letter explaining your feelings and that will help her to understand that your a basically normal man with wants and needs and you just want to spend quality time together
Then she will realise that she needs to put down her laptop and compromise
Hope this helps
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I agree with ducky
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