An argument and my paranoia

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Today I am exhausted.

Baby is 7 months old now and for the past 5 months I’ve been doing the nights alone.

I actually feel physically ill not to mention mentally.

So I broke down and got angry and told my partner tonight I’m not doing it. And from now on we take it in turns.

Eventually he saw that yes he needs to help after some deep thought. And he is doing tonight.

However my paranoia creeps in. I worry baby will be too much for him and he will shake him or do something. Or maybe accidentally fall asleep with him and smother him by accident.

I really need a good nights sleep so I’m trying to put these thoughts to the back of my mind but it’s tough. He’s my baby. I love him. I wish I could do every night but it’s starting to make me sick.

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I hear you. Raising a young baby with an MH problem is bloody hard work. It does need 2 of you.

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I’m sorry that you are going through this right now @Qwerty

Honestly I don’t know how you do it

Managing a baby, toddler, dog and husband?!?!

All while suffering with a severe mental illness!

You are superwoman my friend!

Taking care of yourself is essential!

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I’m currently raising a puppy basically all by myself and many times things get to be too overwhelming

I can’t imagine what you are going through

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Tell him that he always need to be gentle with baby cause baby is fragile and need humans to nurture and care for them

If at any point he can’t handle it during this learning phase cause it’s new for him to call you in

That is how I feel about my dogs. I worry about anyone caring for them.

Feel better. Glad ur spouse is helping

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Yes, this is how I feel about my dog also

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How did it go last night @Qwerty ?

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  1. Expressing your needs from your partner is necessary. So don’t feel guilty about that. Needing help does not make you a weak or bad mom.

  2. You only need to worry if your partner gets unreasonably angry and violent in the past. Then I would be concerned. You are going to have to let go a little on how he manages it, because you will be unable to relax and regroup during your break. If it helps, go outside for a walk or visit friends in the area. Enjoy and relax. If it helps, write a list of things he can do. Like if baby does A, then do B. If that doesn’t work, then try C. Writing it down will help your partner remember it all.

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Thank you. It went very well. I had a good nights sleep. Last night was my shift. So tonight I get a night off again. I’m happy with the outcome and now I know my partner can manage too.

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