Do you get anxious whenever you have something to get done? Do you get the urge to avoid it and run, or procrastinate hoping for the end of times?
I literally get sick when I have to do anything more demanding than usual house chores and stuff like that.
I’m missing my old student self where I would feel just a bit of anxiety and turned it into positive work energy… Now I just drown in it. Also getting worried how I’m gonna make for living with this kind of attitude…and what the hell, is it really a flaw of character or a symptom of illness…?
I can relate to what you’re saying. I’m 57 years old, and I’m still easily overwhelmed by everyday stuff. Take care that you don’t end up like me - 57 years old and with nothing to show for my life. I can remember many times of agonizing over simple matters that it would have been much easier just to deal with. They say that you can make ordinary complications seem overwhelming. I recommend using a strategy of tackling the easy stuff first, and then building up to more demanding stuff. Remember challenging things you have done in the past, and see if you can duplicate them. If you can’t do that, see if you can gradually increase your level of functioning to where you increase your self esteem.
I know what you are talking about, sometimes my stomach just turns and my nerves are to the point of going over the edge. Not a fun feeling to be living with all the time. Not sure if it’s a symptom, but it’s there and has probably reduced my life span about 10 years.
I usually wait for it with anticipation and try to prepare to do whatever I need to do as soon as possible. But what I’ve noticed is that the more responsibilities I have the more active I am. So I think that such stuff is good for me.
Ah kind of. I used to a lot… then I just started figuring out how to do things. Now if I have something to do I just try and get it done asap so I don’t have to feel so far behind in life. I literally do almost everything Ican to stay on top of things every day.
Today:
Went to work
Made Rice and Mushrooms with a new recipe that I kind of crafted on the fly
Made vegan chocolate syrup
Reformatted my PSP and sorted out some files
Had a nap in there between work and doing all that
Made a grocery list for the week
Did all the dishes and changed my water filter…
all that second stuff took about 2 hours… but now I know that I really can’t do anything else to stay on top of things tonight. I’m free to relax and smoke and try to make mocha with that chocolate. Reformat that other PSP and go ahead and plan out tomorrow. I’m not going to celebrate thanksgiving and I’m hoping my building clears out so I’m mostly alone and can just have some rare peace without neighborly noise.
You can get there if you work at it Sara. If you expected me to anything but just try to smoke pot and browse the internet I would almost totally refuse to do so until the onset of my illness.
Having a child to take care of is a lot of responsibility and work also.
And i think you said you have a son and live with your sister.
I think sounds like your doing really good despite your feelings.
It is described as a symptom.
When i finished my aged care certificate i was so positive to get away from centrelink and to work but once i got employed i could not keep the job for longer than a month or so.
Then I had “delusions” “paranoia” (that i think real)
I felt like i was not in my body and they started me off with too many clients and asking a new person to take someone elses shift last minute and then pretty much have them leave when they couldnt do it.
I agree that starting slow can be good.
My current job started me off with only one client and only 2 hours week, simple cleaning.
I would love to have one client care for as long as no pressure on socialising is involved.
I do not want such responsibilities now.
But would do it as volunteer work i think.
Procrastination is anxiety related. My experience with it I feel better when it’s done and never as bad as what I imagine it will be. Nothing to fear but fear itself - Franklin D. Roosevelt.
I used to have two successful approaches to the situation that I would rather avoid: either I motivate myself with the result of my activity or I would just tell myself " ■■■■ it, it has to be done. It has to be done. It has to be done".
Procrastination is really a trap- it sucks you into that passive mindset…and here I am.
Thanks for replies, everyone.
Perfectionism made it worse for me, thinking I had to get it just right. My wife has raised her kids with the attitude, “Well, the important thing is you tried.”
Over the years my wife has taught me by example that “mistakes happen and nothing terrible results.”
I do the easiest stuff first too, and do any small thing to get me started.
You are right, I can relate to how you are feeling. Sometimes things get so overwhelming with so much anxiety you just feel like giving up. It’s good to take things easy and not get too worried but it’s hard I know. I don’t think I can handle the responsibility of providing for a family which is why I may not get married. Life is hard for people with schizophrenia, one may have to set new goals an expectations. I wish you well
I think we need to be kinder to ourselves than most people do. My life is not so fun when I have to do something new. Sometimes I ask for help or treat myself a lot for rewards.
I’m afraid I won’t achieve anything in my life because of it. I’m holding onto some blurry fatalistic idea that it will happen whatever is meant to happen and just hope it will be something good.
Everything is different when you have a kid though.
One achieves success only by how they measure it, Not everyone has to set out to win the Nobel Prize. If you just live a basic life and made the best of what you have to work with, you have achieved much more than a lot of people.