But responsibility can be a source of great anxiety and stress. When I was younger and living at home ,and even when my wife was alive and well, I was not the chief decision maker and felt less anxious and more care free.
Yeah that can be a big one, especially with chronic illness or other disability.
Mike
Many neurotypicals do not take full responsibility of their lives - My brother leaves the everyday, shopping, financial transactions, house responsibilities, bill paying etc… to his wife, my sister in law.
He is busy with his career and does not have the time - so he says
We just have to watch how much we take on, more so than people without it. That’s what I’m implying.
Mike
It’s only reasonable because our minds are crippled.
I am not good at taking the initiative.
Since my divorce I’ve had more stress doing duties and errands she used to do. I just got on celexa for stress and I’m hoping good results. Perhaps taking a med for anxiety would help you?
You are so right Mike - I for one cannot take on too much, if I take on too much, the stress will get to me and I will become symptomatic
What about the other end of the spectrum? Those who are control freaks to combat anxiety?
From a young age I always declared that I wanted to do things myself, but that’s because I had an overbearing mother.
Woo I feel ya on this one. As the oldest of 6 kids, responsibilies just kept piling on me until I was about to snap in two.
I love my family, but let’s just say I’m glad I’m awya at college now. Lightened the burden a bit.
There’s being responsible to other people and being responsible for yourself. You know what you can do. You know what to do. The rest might be nice - but not intrinsic to you.
I think for a lot of the afflicted it’s not so much about responsibility or lack of it as much as being aware of their limitations.
The last couple “real” jobs I had could have ended with me going to prison for losing control in a situation that was dictated by my disorder.
I have never wanted to be a leader of anything, I’ve turned down many opportunity to advance to higher positions, much prefering to support someone else.
I was the manager at a haircutting salon for almost 10 years, the owner showed up every other week to park his “Delorean” in front of the shop, not caring that he blocked in 3cars, slinked into our shop in his platform boots and powder blue leisure suit thinking his shat don’t stink throwing our paychecks on the front desk and slinking back out.
Sometimes he said hello, most times nothing. I told him once the best thing about him being a manager was, he didn’t come around much.
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