Hi
I have always sworn since teens…
My husband never used to swear
I swear like saying swear words not allowed here ‘eff off’ when someone says something so funny that I can’t handle it
I swear about things not at people
He came up behind me just now saying the swear word ‘what’s so effing funny? I thought we were listening to this album’
Cos I was laughing at something on fb
I think I need to say don’t swear in anger
Ever
Cos that was scary
I know this is tame but we’re both aspies
It doesn’t sound like something worth arguing over, to be honest, and it could wind up being a really explosive, stupid argument if it happens.
Because what it basically sounds like, is like you want to police which words he can and cannot use, while making special exceptions for yourself.
In essence, “It’s okay when I swear because I swear to show something is funny, but you’re not allowed to use swear words when you are angry, because I say so. If you want to swear, then you can only swear the same way that I swear.”
I think it would be reasonable to address anger problems, if that is an issue. Like nobody should get worked up into a rage just because they hear someone else laughing at something.
But trying to police how someone else talks, especially when you use the same words albeit in different ways, doesn’t seem like a battle worth fighting to me. Especially with an aspie.
What the F have you done Cheystal, teaching your husband to swear LOL, I don’t sear much unless I hurt myself, One guy I know every second word is a swear word, people hate talking to him.
Little swearing is ok, nothing the worry about.
Thanks for this excellent reply turnip x