Talking about sex before even meeting

I have left this in this category because I feel it is impacting my health.

I have lied a lot of the times on here. Yes. Everytime a guy brought it up before even meeting or after meeting once, I have been tempted. I am talking to this guy now. It’s been the second day. I spoke to him on the phone. I want to let my guard down. Because I just want to. But I worry it’s manic symptoms going to take over. I know what happens then.

But I have been thinking… Would that be such a bad thing if I let my guard down? The only thing stopping me is not having met him…

The problem is he uses different ways of talking about it, without actually referring to it… I feel like this but I want to be able to think of it as normal… to feel like this…

Well I meet guys like this but I am not an especially promiscuous girl. I always think it is best to let things develop slowly and I always think about the risk of stds which are no joke. You know herpes I believe is incurable.

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I just feel everytime I feel tempted I am being “Manic” but maybe it’s just a natural feelign I am surpressing.

I still am tempted but my antipsychotics mean I can feel literally nothing which sucks. But you know it’s true men do kind of use innuendo and suggestiveness and sometimes you wonder whether it is your imagining things or they are being sexual with you. Sometimes the inability to separate fiction and reality can cloud your judgement…

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I know but I am positive that is what it is. Cos he tells me…

Ok if it is unequivocal then you have to ask yourself whether you are happy to be a notch on his bedpost or whether there is long term potential here. I personally would feel a bit used in a one night stand or friends with benefits or casual no strings attached but everyone’s different.

He claims to want something serious but he’s words suggest otherwise.

Well i think if he wanted something serious he would wait for you IMO. Whatever you decide practice safely…

We are not having it, talkng and doing is two different things… but the talking kind of (you know) lols… but I will never sleep with him unless I wanted to ,…

Guys that talk about sex before ever meeting a girl are just _holes. And that is all. Don’t waste your precious time talking to them. For that matter, guys who talk about sex when first meeting a girl are the same. Don’t waste your time.

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Why are they a holes? I thought the rules were different in modern society.

No, the rules are not different in modern society. Men have to respect women still in modern society.