Told me to stay away from dating sites and avoid contact with men via phone or internet uNtil stable. Do I listen? I’m gonna tell this guy (he’s four years younger to me). I haven’t met him but every morning he texts me calling me things like “sexy”. I think he’s trouble.
So I’m trying to cut away from this place for a bit. Might read not post.
I think as soon as you are stable you need to try dating and having some fun (if you still want to). Honestly from so many of your posts you just sound horribly repressed. When you have no other symptoms except wanting to date then at that time I don’t think it’s a symptom anymore just normal.
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The reason your pdoc told you that is that because you’re unstable you’ll end up making decisions that are not the best for you and that you’ll eventually regret. My advice is stop, consider trying again when you’re better. And I disagree with turnip, with mania dating and sexual endeavours it’s a symptom.
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Yeah but if it’s the ONLY symptom of mania to want to date and have sex, then I don’t think it’s a symptom. If there are other symptoms present (which her pdoc probably can see so I agree she should wait til she’s stable) then yeah it can be another symptom of many. My angle is more like she should hold out until she gets stable and then go for it, and not feel like it will always be a symptom of mental illness to desire romance and sex.
I’m with @Minnii on this. Increased promiscuity is a real danger in manic type states. When I was on the ward one time this lady who was married with kids ended up sleeping with ten guys on the ward. Think she had to get tested for STDs.
When she was better she was distraught about what had happened. If I were you @anon80629714 I would maybe stay away from dating stuff just at the moment. Absolutely explore those social circles when everything is more levelled but for now just take it easy.
There are people out there you don’t want to get involved with, but don’t completely cut yourself off. I think they do take a few precautions on those dating sites. Just be a little bit careful. Make sure he isn’t a violent drunk or anything. Also, be very careful about joint bank accounts.
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It might be a good test of someone’s character if he’s willing to be tested for STD’s before sex. It might be awkward to bring it up, but things like that need to be considered before sex.
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Yea,I think your repress like me,and I like that someone here mentioned that you could regret missed opportunity on dating and love life…sorry you only live once,you need to be happy,experience different things,have fun and work hard on things that matter!!
I am learning to let go too nowadays