Life to me is about appreciation of what I have. Even if a normie compared themself to someone else they would feel terrible and a lot of people who have everything are still unhappy
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Success is on a spectrum. You are less successful than some people and more successful than others. I mean, if you think of it whereâs the actual cut off for success; where is the line drawn? I donât think there is some universal measure of success. There is obvious success with people who have wealth and fame and popularity but what about everyone else?
Well, if someone is born in the ghetto and claws his/her way out and gets a good job as a mechanic for 40 hours a week that would be a success. Or a poor women who grew up with nothing and maybe was abused but she gets a good job as a cleaner in a hotel, thatâs a success. Having any job is a success. But itâs all relative. If you look at everyoneâs backstory, itâs what you do with the cards youâre dealt in life that means success.
Hell, I stayed out of the hospital for 25 years, that was a success until I had a relapse. Youâre doing pretty good with your job and judging from your photos you go to many interesting places: two successes. Itâs a fact we have schizophrenia and that means making adjustments and that may mean giving up dreams of being rich and getting the house. Thatâs just the way it is, though even some schizophrenics have houses. Itâs OK to feel sad sometimes, itâs sad that schizophrenia is such a devastating disease that robs us out of certain things but you can still have a fulfilling life and since youâre so young you have plenty of time to get a little something out of life.
You have to learn not to compare yourself to other people who have more than you, itâs pointless, it wonât get you anywhere. Everybody does it, people with big houses are jealous of people who have bigger houses or nicer cars. Just do the best you can and make the right choices.
Hell, Iâm the last person who should have got schizophrenia, I had nothing before I became schizophrenic but before I chose to isolate several years ago I did a lot of fun things and went some interesting places and had some good friends. In my disease Iâve been to concerts, comedy clubs, plays, baseball games, picnics, barbecues, gone camping and water skiing, traveled across the country a few times, taken train trips, been to many parties, hung out with cool people, been to too many movies and restaurants to count.
Even in my drug addiction, I was very social and hung out in some ritzy places with rich people. And I did all that despite coming from nothing. Man, youâve got looks, youâre young, you seem pretty intelligent, and I assume you have your health, just those four things will open some doors for you. But if you strive to be the next John Nash or Elyn Sachs you will probably will be sorely disappointed. But if your goals are to have a job, an apartment, a friend or two and go places and have fun you will probably be successful at that.
Having schizophrenia is going to affect us somehow, itâs a serious disease and sometimes itâs hard to ignore but life doesnât have to end after a diagnosis. Some people with the disease are luckier than others and are able to do more. It doesnât mean theyâre better than others with the disease just luckier and you seem to be one of the luckier ones.
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Youâre right. most of us are in the average⌠
I am also somewhere in the middle. I donât mind this, I just always thought I can be whoever I want (not talking about being a famous star, rather choosing any ânormalâ career. What I mean by that, I thought I could be a lawyer, or a doctor, I thought there will be no problems for me, though untill pscyhosis I was a very good student)
I love to think about life, as a chocolate box. You really donât know which one you gonna get. It is a phrase from Forest Gump.
Thatâs amazing. I really hope for atleast five more years. Overall, I am quite not sure about my situation, because my pdoc still believes once I could stop meds. Maybe itâs really possible for me, I am not sure.
Thanks for that, @77nick77 I really want to have a fullfiling, nice life. I want to take all the opportunities.
Many people are saying this to me. Itâs so natural for me to compare myself to others non stop⌠I am doing this thing from my teenage years. I always wanted to be the best. The most pretty. The most popular. The smartest. The most talented⌠Though itsâ really, really impossible for anyone. There are still plenty people better than us.
This is a place I enjoy to read a lot! Glad you did all those things. I also try to do everything I can. I mean, if I have an opportunity to have a fun day - I am taking this opportunity! though sometimes I even then feel so negative, but I started accepting my negativity⌠I mean, I still go even if I feel very sad or negative.
Big thanks for that. Rlly. I mean⌠somedays I feel those things you just said about me, but other days I feel like a monster. Maybe itâs depressive thinking or something else, I am not sure. Yeah⌠talking about being someone really BIG, I know, itâs quite impossible. I donât have a genius intelligence and also I am not the prettiest lady. Also, probably, my mental health sometimes is too â â â â â â up to reach the stars.
About sz⌠truth indeed. Life continiues. There are so many things to do, to learn, that even illness shouldnât stop us from doing this (even sometimes the illness stops us). Overall, youâre right. To define sucess is a bit harder than I thought.
Me too Iâm unsuccessful too
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