I remember reading on a website about a man who would tell some women he just started dating that he had schizophrenia and some of them would say things like “Have you ever killed anybody?” and other stupid things like that. Personally no one has ever said anything ignorant like that to me since if they didn’t like the fact that I had schizophrenia they would just cut contact with me completely. I was wondering if you guys had any experiences in telling someone that you were diagnosed with sz or sza where someone said something really dumb and ignorant to you about it and how you responded?
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Mr Turtle has loose lips and told all his family about my schizophrenia without asking me whether I wanted that information to get out.
His mother sat down with me and said “I have multiple personalities too, I call them my ids.”
Wrong, just all kinds of wrong.
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I said I had been diagnosed with a psychotic disorder and my friend said “What?? That can’t be right! You don’t ever want to hurt or kill anyone do you?? You’re too nice to be psychotic!”
She thought psychotic was the same thing as being a psychopath. Gahhh. But I explained it to her and she was embarrassed and apologized.
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When I told a coworker, she was trying to be supportive and said " wow, you come across as pretty normal".
My husband said something so sweet that I don’t want to say it was stupid, but it was not helpful. He said “well, who’s to say that you didn’t see and hear demons?”
People usually get quiet and then distance themselves from me. Or they are like how I was and know nothing of the disorder and treat you normally. I have had people talk about people with sz like they are all axe wielding maniacs though. They didn’t know I had it when they said that though. I didn’t tell them. The stigma can be pretty bad sometimes. Part of me wonders if I was fired because they found out.
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Stupidest thing people tell me when I say I have schizoaffective is: "What’s that?"
I had a female lover who had a young adult daughter who was dead set against her mother dating me because she thought I was going to go on a murderous rampage one day and murder her mother or her because of my sza. I had to deal with that for eleven years. We actually had to date each other behind the daughter’s back all of that time because of the daughter’s attitude. It was hell.
I don’t tell people I have it anymore. Makes life a lot easier.
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“Stupidest things someone has said to you when you told them you have schizophrenia?”
I don’t tell people I have it. back when I did, people would avoid me or be quiet.
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My mom asked me when I was going to kill her.
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Had a girl pull out her phone and say, ‘oh I have got to go - got a call’.
Her phone was switched off.
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That “you got dealt a bad hand” comment from a social worker really stung. I’ve heard that exact expression used two more times since then.
My current doctor said the same thing to me.
Oh also I had a dr once say something like,
Well there are babies that die before the age of five, there are people who become crippled and have to live in a wheelchair, you got schizoaffective disorder.
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I told a few Normie’s some things I’ve seen… They said it sounds cool and they wished they could see cool things like that too… That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard…
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One of my nurses one time told me to “just be glad that you don’t suffer as much as your son does”. I wondered, how does she know how much I suffer?
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I was in a job centre having an interview about getting benefits in a communal office space. I said,“I have schizophrenia” quietly, and he almost shouted,“You have SCHIZOPHRENIA!”. People turned and looked and I shrank into my chair, knowing all of the stigma attached to it…
I usually just say I have depression and my favorite is when I tell people I have a hard time getting out of bed to which the say “oh there are times when I don’t feel like getting out of bed to go to work." Right? Same thing. Thanks for the dose of pseudo empathy. They usually don’t say they’ve blown job interviews and other appointments as a result.
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Opeces get outski!!
After reading my medical notes my family doc said: “psychosis? You don’t look like it…” I told him next time I will come throwing cats around and with dirty hair to appear more believable heh… he didn’t even smile😂
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Ohhh… and after being diagnosed my brother asked me if I can give him some of my antipsychotic meds I have got to check if he gets high after taking it. He was really disappointed when there was no such effect heh… I found it rather cool, felt really accepted for who I am and because of that more interesting and fascinating😉
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They said wuts that mean. And I said just watch donnie darko
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“But you don’t seem retarded🤔”…and then through the grapevine about me going to our local clubhouse (same person): "Why does Jordi go to that retarded place?"
Telling some people usually doesn’t go over too well because what they know and think is real is Criminal Minds. I worked on that ■■■■■■■ piece of ■■■■ show as a set dresser with early symptoms when I was younger…the crew was so cliquesh and hostile I didn’t last more than a couple days-or they never asked me back I guess. But many people have listened and shown a great deal of respect, concern, and love-even if they only understood I wasn’t 100% anymore and couldn’t take even the most minor stresses of life at times.
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With the latter same here… the vast part of people were very understanding and either interested (in a good way) in my experience, or sharing that either themselves or family member/friend suffered with mental health condition or were just simply compassionate. Unfortunately those who were
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