I get really offended and upset over stupid little things.
For example, my husband knows that I hate clowns, but he keeps replying to texts that I send to him with the ugly clown emoji. He did it today. I’m so upset about it because it’s such a disrespectful thing for him to do. Total disregard, and I think he gets a kick out of the fact it bothers me.
But I know this is petty. Why does it bother me so much? Anyone else get really upset even when they know it’s nothing in the whole scheme of things?
Yeah I get you…when I’m not on the right meds little things can really bother me and I hate that.
But maybe you need to be straight up with him and tell him it really bothers you more than he understands.
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Irritability can be huge factor,
Maybe get away so something relxing by yourself…
Sometimes I wake up grumpy for no reason.
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Well, I get the idea that our house is failing almost every day because deadlines, appointments, complaints, demands, etc. until everybody is overwhelmed and upset and that just fuels the fire. So for your trival problem I’d give the psychoanalysis - like what made you hate clowns to begin with. That would be doing your share of the work. The rest is your husbands job to accept that there is something irrational and unexplainable about you. Is he being a perfectionist?
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Wow, @pretzel, thank you. There is a good reason why I hate clowns so passionately. I’ve told my husband.
I think my husband gets tired of one thing after another being a problem for me. But this is so easy to just not use the clown emoji.
I get sick of having so many things that trigger, annoy, make me angry.
Thanks for your response.
You’re right, @EmilyTheStrange. I need to talk with him calmly about it.
He’s not a mean person, and I believe he loves me, but he can be dismissive sometimes.
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I hidden tension headache is what sets me off. They can be difficult to identify as such.
Headaches are horrible. I’m sorry you get tension headaches. I get migraines and sinus headaches. But not regularly.
My anger is so deep-set in me. I hate that little things that shouldn’t bother me not only bother me but take on meanings and intentions that simply aren’t real. I was deeply offended and furious that my husband used the stupid clown emoji again. Later, I wasn’t as upset.
My temper flares up irrationally and I wondered if that’s a sz thing or just an added little bonus to me… 
My temper flares up less now than it used to because I have seen it in others and it’s very unbecoming. Take deep breaths, count to ten, if you respect your “victim”. I feel I have lost all respect for anyone when I’m having a flare-up.
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I was once raped on a sail boat, it was the first time I was raped and it was in huntington beach california. It was after I left the marines, yet my girlfriend insist on putting up pictures of sail boats all over the house.
I hate it. And she knows
We used to say “With friends like that, who needs enemies?”
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I wish I didn’t have them, but I do and they’re ferocious.
@Hedgehog you need to be angry at him for putting clowns on his messages…you can tell him I think he is an ■■■■■■■.
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I’d bake him cookies made out of cat food and force feed them to him!!
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Are you serious, @neveragain? That’s horrible and I’m very sorry.
The man who molested me wore a mask sometimes, and even though it wasn’t a clown mask, I still correlate. I think because the only time I’ve been to the circus was with him…
I was just thinking. @neveragain and @jukebox, my husband has never been abused in any way. He has no mental illness, has never been suicidal, etc. I’m amazed when I think of it, but it’s true. His point of reference is completely different. While that’s frustrating for me sometimes ( and maybe your girlfriend is like that, @neveragain?) I have to remember that he simply can’t relate.
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