Stressed beyond my limits

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Hi peeps,

Hope you are all doing well :+1:

This is a vent post, so feel free to skip over this one:

I may have mentioned it here earlier, but my mom and I have to move by the end of August, as we are being priced out of where we currently live.

We have been living here almost 20 years, so this will be a big change.

There has been a lot of turmoil the past few months— packing, donating, and searching for a place to live.

Well, over the weekend we found a new place that seems great— even amidst the housing crisis in our city.

The lease was drawn up, everything was set to go— that is, until my mom finds a different place for $200 less that she wants to check out instead.

I can’t deal with the uncertainty of where we’re going to be living anymore— the move is stressful enough, and now she wants to see a new property.

I don’t think she understands how the rental market works, let alone how much grief and stress this is causing me.

I just want to know where we’ll be living— it’s bad enough we have to move, but now this is ridiculous.

Symptoms are ramped up and I am literally popping propranolol like it’s no one’s business.

I don’t fuucking know what to do anymore. I have told her she’s being ridiculous and how this is affecting me— bad sleep, anxious days and nights, the flaring up of symptoms. She seems to not care that much— instead trying to find the best deal in a housing market where everything is inflated and quantity/quality is scarce.

Like, I get trying to find somewhere a little less expensive, but we don’t exactly have the luxury of choice at this point— we have to be out of here in a month and a half.

Maybe I’m the ridiculous one, I don’t know.

Thanks for reading.

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Moving is stressful!

But it’s good your mom seems to be handling most of the paperwork. Just think about how difficult it would be if you would have to look for a place for yourself.

You’ll get through this.

Edit: also if a property looks too good to be true it usually is.

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Moving is extremely stressful especially for those of us afflicted with a severe mental illness.
I would let your Mom know how you are feeling.
Also, stay in close communication with your doctors and therapist if you have one.

If you can, maybe getting prescribed temporarily a supply of PRN benzos.

This shall pass @Schztuna

So hang in there

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Thank you @Jonathan2 and @Vertigo— great pieces of advice from you both :+1:

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I’m sorry you are having a rough time @Schztuna. I don’t think you are being ridiculous at all, it’s important to share how you’re feeling with the people you live with. Like @Vertigo said, this will eventually pass. If you can, lean on your coping mechanisms and do whatever makes you feel better. Maybe tell your pdoc how you’re feeling. Hang in there! :+1:

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Thanks @Tulane, I appreciate your kind words :+1:

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My psychosis surfaced the first time when i moved. Its understandable

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When my husband came up our stairs a few years ago and told me we had to move,

Like a month after my mother in law had died,

I could literally hear my brain frying.

It was too ■■■■■■■ much.

Finding a new place, in California, that’s affordable?

And I had three dogs, one was a pit bull.

AND I had three month’s worth of dialysis supplies to deal with.

No matter what your circumstances,

Moving is a personal hell.

It’s absolute uncertainty at a core level.

I live in a nice house by the beach,

But it’s on lease.

The fact that we may have to move is always looming over my head.

It bothers me so much that I’m trying to get my husband to buy a nice 5th wheel.

I’d rather live tiny than be at the mercy of a landlord.

Anyway,

That kind of turned into a rant of my own.

Sorry.

I’m just trying to say that moving is terrible and you have my sympathy and support.

I hope your mom anchors down one of these properties soon and it’ll ease your mind.

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Must be lots of stress and I do agree with you. The sooner you have a contract the better. You’ll feel more secured and that is important for the peace of mind. Your anxiety is normal.
I just hope for the best of you, that your mom knows what she is doing.
Fingercross that everything will be smooth.

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I don’t blame you for being that stressed. Especially when it seems to be out of your control.

I’d be the same.

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Your mum is being sensible trying to find one that is affordable , youll both be fine, take some deep breaths keep calm

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Sorry you had psychosis while moving @Spacemonk, that sounds awful. Thanks for your post :+1:

Geez @CharlesFoster, that is a stressful situation for sure— and I also agree about that looming feeling of having to move when one has a lease hanging over their head. Not a good time. Thanks for your reply :+1:

Thanks @Davincii, I appreciate your kind words :+1:

Thanks for your reply @everhopeful :+1:

Thanks for your reply @anon29983254 :+1:

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I think knowing you suddenly have to move and having no idea where you’re going is extremely stressful for anyone, including neurotypical people. So it’s that much harder on you.

Be careful with taking too much propranolol, your heart can become dependent on it, among other issues. My dr told me taking it everyday will cause me to become dependent on it. I don’t take it at all because of that. I started Buspar instead but now I’m not on that either.

If I were you, I’d call my pdoc and make an appointment for a drug that’s safe to take regularly or a higher dose of one you already take to help you get through this extremely stressful time.

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I do not know how houseing market is in your area, but there are two months left should be enough time. A cheaper place would come in handy.
I am sure selling stuff and donations depleted your energy as well. Sorry for that.

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That’s a good point with the propranolol @LilyoftheValley, I didn’t know it could be dependency-forming. Thank you for your reply :+1:.

@Davincii, we just signed the lease and I feel sick to my stomach. I dunno why but I just do. Things should be fine though… I hope. Thanks for your reply :+1:

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Are you doing anything for the stress? I don’t know what works for you but it sounds like nows the time implement some stress reduction techniques. Also don’t be scared to contact your doctor about a prn benzo. This is exactly the kind of situation they should be used for.

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I’m just laying on the couch with my dog at the moment, sleeping also seems to help if/when I can get some zzz’s. I know benzos would most likely help a ton, but I dunno if I want to go that route… Thanks for your reply @Aimingatremission :+1:

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Just keep it in your back pocket. Stressful transitions are the one thing I would recommend them for.

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Moving is stressful! I also have been stressed lately. I remind myself to relax and I try to rest as much as I can.

I also have beta blockers but don’t use them. Be careful with doing too much.

I think the best route would be to talk to your mother and establish a plan on how to go forth with things. Structure is always good when doing something that causes stress.

Good luck with moving Tuna! :wink:

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Thank you for your advice @Speedy— I’m going to try to get on the same page as my mom and just do things her way, I think. I hope your stresses go away soon! :+1:

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