I know it sounds harsh but being sick can make us hard to understand, work with, and be around. Should people try to stay calm and realize we are ill when dealing with their sick loved ones? Yes. But many have no real understanding of mental illness and have their own issues. It is our responsibility to TRY to make rational decisions, take our meds( work to find what will work for us), talk to therapists about or problems so we aren’t constantly making others uncomfortable with our issues. It’s hard but we have to work on our illness everyday and accept that we are sick.
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I’m being selfish right now. I need to get up and clean up the kitchen and switch out the laundry and instead I’m here.
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Just reminded me I need to do laundry to. But when I mean selfish I mean not making our loved ones feel so much pressure or all the fighting.
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Some people DO actually like to help…but many can’t and don’t. I agree with your post, but in the right context.
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some people need to be more selfish. It really just depends. I think we all need to give it our all everyday and don’t beat ourselves up for our shortcomings at the end of the day.
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I’ll just keep plodding along doing my thing. I want to be someone my family is proud of.
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Sorry, I do not agree at all. Sometimes I have to be selfish,especially in your most important decision - your brain, I know that I’m uncomfortable at all. But deciding whether to drug my brain and change myself for the comfort of others does not sound like a good option
i don’t know, i think normans should try to understand our illness better, they’re the ones with an healthy functioning mind and we are the sick ones. if you had a pet dog and wanted to communicate with it, you wouldn’t expect it to learn english. it’s up to you, with the greater intelligence to learn the dog’s ‘language,’ when it growls it’s angry or it’s happy when it wags its tail etc. err maybe that’s a silly comparison, not saying we are 
but i think you see my point.
it’s not hard for normans to learn the basics of sz it can be learned in 5 minutes, but how many of them actually ask ‘what is sz like?’ in my experience that has never happened, noone has ever asked me what delusions are like or anhedonia or etc.
i’d actually love to explain what sz is like to a family member or friend but noone seems interested.
I do my level best to stay well so as to not cause issues at home. I don’t want to be extra work.
But I’ve had to learn to be selfish… cos according to my loved ones I was well and shouldn’t see anyone for help as it will go on my medical record which they saw as bad.
I think schizophrenia makes most folks occupied with a lot of stuff. I do feel selfish a lot…it’s not that I’m trying to rock the boat, it’s just that I’m dealing with a lot of stuff and often that isn’t with concern to other folk.
I do try!
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