She had tons of tobacco paraphernalia in her bag that her dad found. She kept lying too before he searched her bag, saying yeah she had a vape but through it out. She had multiple and didn’t throw them out. Plus, she’s grounded from her phone and he found someone else’s phone in her bag. Turns out she’s had it a while so when she gets in trouble she still has a phone to talk to friends with. Craziness at my house.
I’m sorry.
Parenting a teenager is hard,
Being a teenager is hard.
It’s just a difficult time all around.
I hope you guys can find some way to get her acting right before she gets herself in trouble.
Sorry you’re having to go through this.
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I’d just be happy it wasn’t drugs.
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I used to smoke when I was that age so I know what it’s like. My parents accepted it when I was fifteen saying they weren’t going to throw out my cigarettes anymore just give them back. I also used to sneak out of the house at night to see my girlfriend. We drank and smoked pot at that age and got picked up by the cops. We did things right this time around with my niece. She doesn’t smoke or break the law at all though she recently bought a playboy sweatshirt. Where did we go wrong? Lol.
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Thanks @GoldenRex. I think now that she really has lost everything she may be uncomfortable enough to make some changes
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Honestly I can understand her having a second phone… Taking a phone has never seemed like a good punishment to me tbh.
The vaping is not good though… Have you asked her why she’s doing it??
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It’s been pot in the past. But we didn’t find any this time
She won’t say why.
My parents would take my phone away, but I had a secret cache of spare phones I would break out at night and then I’d get in even more trouble when I got caught. 
These were the landline phones you’d plug in with a telephone jack, not cell phones.
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They’d bust me when the cord ran from the kitchen to my room. 
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I’m sorry, that is hard. Please remember that tobacco is one of the most addictive substances in the world, and simply grounding her won’t be enough to get her to stop. Medicaid in my state covers smoking cessation treatments for kids as young as 14. Look into your options there.
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Haha, I used to stretch the cord so far it would pop out of the phone.
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I remember being a teenager that was curious about all that stuff. I think it’s intriguing to some teens because “only older people are allowed to do it.”
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Thanks. I’ll check it out
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Also, I know the gut reaction is to come down super hard on her, but if the goal is to get her to successfully quit, the big key will be lowering her stress levels so she doesn’t feel the need for nicotine to take the edge off.
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You always have good advice. I’m not just saying that because you’re a mod.
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I don’t have any say in punishments, but I’ll let my husband know that’s what’s recommended
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Thanks. I appreciate that.
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