Spending too much time alone

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#1

I’ve always been guilty of this, even back when it was two of us spending too much time alone. I feel like having spent so much time alone throughout my life, and I was like this a s a child, loved spending time to myself though I always had a t least one or two friends but what a breath of fresh air I remember it being when they finally went home.

What I’m getting at is I guess I feel like it’s made me different, and obviously people who spend a lot of time alone are going to be different. But I guess it’s like a shock and if prolonged a stifling one, if I have to spend a lot of time among others. Aside from the unrelated reasons that have made me a recluse, I guess when you’re alone you do you’re own thing, like what you feel like liking, do what you feel like doing. Whereas I feel like most others let these things be influenced by those constantly around them.

I guess that was what I was getting at. Whether it’s a bad thing, no I don’t think so, but it can make it difficult to relate to others. Hell, I feel like I care what other’s think probably more than most people and yet I prefer to do my own thing, which in my youth was done among others, and which I was blamed for leading them to believe you actually could do you’re own thing in this world, hell if I knew I was despite my advantage of life experience, just was naive as they were if not more…defenitaly more in some ways.

I don’t know…I wish I could come to terms with the fact that I am a non-conformist but care far too much what others think…I fear now more than ever to stray too far or stick out…I don’t wish to stick out.

I don’t know. What ever.

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#2

I think I understand what you’re saying and I agree. I have the same concern. For me, spending plenty of time alone is really fantastic - especially when I spend the time well and wisely. Finding internal fulfillment (which usually comes from spending time alone) makes it possible for me to interact with others a whole lot better. I’m grateful to have my own life, and that enables me to let others be who they are without trying to force my own perspectives on them.

I tend to err on the side of too much solitude. So I sometimes have to ‘help’ myself get out and about. And if that means that if I will be interacting with others, I do it from a fulfilled perspective.

#3

favorite time to get out and volunteer or work is mornings, cuz everyone is like “Good morning,” and everyone including you is starting your day. Don’t sleep in. Experience this.

#4

I respect your choice to be alone, but im very different.
I work my days in solitude and come home to being a single mother to an 11 year old daughter. I have no friends and talk to no one, but my heart aches for companionship. I’d love to talk to someone, but I talk to the dog and that’s it.
It’s interesting to see where others are. This is where I am.

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#5

You sound a lot like my sister actually.