I remember this girl when i was in hospital about 8 years ago she told me she was over 18 and called me handsome she always tried to sit next to me during lunch and gave me a kinder suprise egg which i gave back to her i denied her advances and was kind of cold towards her i feel for her now after reading this thread.
I can say that too. But Iāve also heard the many, many stories of stigma that people on here face. The worst Iāve faced is just condescending attitudes every now and then from people who guess something is off with me. Nothing cruel or mean. But people on here have gotten harassed at their job for being mentally ill or some people face stigma at school, and sometimes in public. I think the issue of stigma depends on what state, country, or region you live in. In some countries or parts of countries, they might be more tolerant. The mentally ill in some countries are still ostracized and are hidden away. Iāve heard the horror stories. I live in a very liberal state, California. Maybe people here are more tolerant of the mentally ill. I donāt know how more conservative states treat their mentally ill citizens. But you canāt speak for the world and say that there is no stigma left anywhere in the world.
I was just a little offended when you said it would make a lovely story to tell your kids one day, assuming it was meant sarcastically.
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Thatās my type of humor. You mean you wrote all those posts and went through all that trouble just to win over me because I made an insignificant joke? Now Iām the one who should be offended.
No, I made the posts because thatās my experience. You point out stigma, but your insignificant joke still has stigma on it. Iām fine with it, I joke and link stuff about it too, and maybe I shouldnāt comment on topics if my views arenāt popular.
Iām not gonna touch this anymore, we are in disagreement but that doesnāt mean we canāt stay friends.
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Relationships develop over weeks and months. I surely didnāt meet anyone for a long enough duration to start a relationship with. Maybe others might have and I wish I did.
I prefer stability. I like meeting others go through similar experiences but if they are at a ward it means they are having trouble managing their illness. I avoid stressful relationships as much as possible.
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The funny thing is that I met a couple of women in the hospital in my twenties and we kind of hit it off and I got their phone numbers.
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I did that too, but the most the two of us ever had was bipolar. It just feels harder to imagine with schizophreniaā¦ both for me and for the person Iām with.
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Out of 17 inpatient and numerous outpatient Iāve seen about 5-6 total babes there.Unfortunately, most people at the wards are very, very old, fat, and ugly. Iām not trying to be harsh but itās a true reality for most.
Iām very obese and lack money. I lack education. Smarts only go so far. I think I have a nice facial structure and was above average looking before my illness, although my mom admitted I was no āBrad Pittā, to which I agree lol.
I have aspergers so Iām shy, not interested in getting rejected for obvious reasons, and never kissed a girl or had a girlfriend. Iām 29 lol.
Currently, there is one babe that is totally out of my league that Iām not interested in for obvious reasons. Not only does she have a boyfriend, she is super successful and educated.
In college, I had pretty girls flirt with me, but I was too busy studying and was insecure about my age and not ever having a girlfriend or anything.
Honestly, I had one good friend but he hasnt been returning my texts.Whatever.
With that being said, Iām a lot like my dad. He isnāt interested in making friends anymore.
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@anon84898315ā¦you shoould join a mental health clubā¦these are place s where you can do art craeti cve writing, yoga, and healthmanagement or else just drop in for a cooffeeā¦
i would recommend itā¦youād meet plenty of mentally ill people
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I feel like I donāt belong in society I would go to psych ward rite now if I could bring my personal belongings and had my own room and just chill been in weird mood lately idk what it is
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There are better places to make friends. Hospitals are for emergencies. Theyāre not meant to be places where people who are just bored or lonely go to hang out. If you go to the hospital just because you want friends and lie to get yourself admitted, youāre stealing a bed from someone who actually needs it. You know how much healthcare sucks in this country.
There arenāt enough beds for the severely mentally ill, and while I do place part of the blame on the government, some of the blame goes to people who like to go to the hospital just because they can. You know the people Iām talking about. The ones who get to the unit and immediately start bragging about how many different hospitals theyāve been to and how many times theyāve been and how long these hospitalizations have been going on.
Anyway, other than the āhospital hoppers,ā as my mom calls them, everyone in the hospital is sick. Why would you want to hang out with a bunch of sick people? That would be like intentionally getting yourself admitted to the burn unit in order to make friends with other people who are insecure about their appearances.
Additionally, there is an added danger to you for unnecessarily getting admitted to the hospital. If youāre stable on your current meds, then youāre sh it out of luck because they will be taking you off of the meds immediately and changing them. The general consensus is that, if youāre sick enough to be in the hospital, then obviously your meds arenāt working well enough, if at all. Imagine going in just to make a few friends and then you end up having a psychotic episode because youāre no longer on the meds that made you stable. Oh, and no doctor in their right mind is ever going to put you back on that stabilizing coctail meds ever again.
At the end of the day, you do what you want to do. I canāt stop you from getting yourself admitted, but Iām warning you that itās going to do more harm than good. Like I said before, there are better places to make friends. Join a club, volunteer, get a job, invite some neighbors over for a meal, anything. But please, donāt go to the hospital unless you truly need it.
Thereās no question having a friend with schiz is having a friend you have a lot in common with. Try joining a mental wellness club in town.
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Ive been in the ward a lot the past two years. Even though im antisocial af i still meet people quite often. About three people have asked for my number/fb friends but all of them were flaky to the point i couldnt hang with them.
I know what you mean though, itd be nice to meet someone!
All I am saying is donāt get involved with or marry someone crazier than yourself!
I did that once. Never again and Iām a paranoid schizophrenic!
R1ās rules to live by number 1!
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I couldnāt agree more, @rogueone
I was in a relationship with someone who had schizophrenia (I have paranoid schizophrenia). We didnāt meet in a psychiatric hospital, though.
We had some great times together, but looking at it objectively, it was a huge mistake. We were not good for each other. A relationship made in Hell.
Honestly, we just (unintentionly) made each other more psychotic with each passing day. For example, when he disappeared one day, I thought he was negotiating to get a hitman to assassinate me. Thatās how much trust there was. It turned out that he went to buy a bottle of Southern Comfort, which he was becoming far too reliant on - but his vast alcohol intake is another story.
As @rogueone wisely stated: āā¦donāt get involved with or marry someone crazier than yourself!ā
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Iāve seen some pretty staff over the years. Really pretty. I know the rules lol and abide by them.
There are better places to meet women.
I had a former roommate (cool guy) who was institutionalized and told me all his cool stories and adventures there. Seemed like a blast lol.
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Genetics are important to me. Crazy + crazy doesnāt cancel out, it amplifies. Iād hate or would be sad to have a schizophrenic child because I passed it on to them. One reason I donāt want kids. I want my kids to have the best opportunities in life.
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Dunno if I would purposely do the same. I know itās not as easy as before for meā¦sometimes there are couple cute girls there. Itās been awhile since Iāve been in there, Iām sorta better now. I have my own personal grudges against myself lol.
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