I’m at the point where I barely talk to anyone. I’ll text people here and there, and I have one person I talk to a lot, but beyond that I’ve kind of given up. I feel defeated with relationships. I don’t really understand how to enjoy being with people without being anxious or just plain bored. Most of the time is rather just be alone but I am so lonely and life feels so hollow despite it. Kinda stuck with it for a long time now.
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Ive been socially withdrawing more lately too. It’s an adjustment for sure, but I like it, look at is as an opportunity for self improvement
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Could it have to do with who where n when?
Majority in my neighbourhoods I can’t stand being around because they treat me like sh it etc
But when I’m free to feel like myself n be myself and be treated well then ican enjoy the company of a better people for me.
Where are those people though….
Keep active on the forum then atleast you have us.
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I have found feelings of loneliness get better with time
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I have been doing this for a long time and I think there can be profound consequences to your abilities. I was/am avoiding people treating me badly, but it doesn’t change.
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Me too!
I am avoiding bully vibes and disrespect etc that neighbourhoods majority do to me for years .
Just walking my dog they are horrible to me.
Thankfully I have my man and dog.
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That’s good, it’s good to have someone on your side. I avoid my neighbors.
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That’s interesting. I hope its true in my case as I’m not sure when or if I’ll ever make friend friends
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I’d recommend a day program if you have one in your area. I go to mine most weekdays. Went today. If I didn’t have them I’d be in a similar boat. I’d probably reconnect with other friends, but it’s not as easy going.
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Do you have interests in common with the people you socialize with? I do fine with people who share my interests. Well, I am not someone who talks a lot in person, but I like to listen to people who share my interests with the occasional interjection. I am very taciturn F2F and I economize my use of verbiage.
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I have interests and hobbies but they’re all solitude except music. But I’m not always in the music mood. Lately I’ve been really into art. I did sit and make art with my partner today. That was nice.
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I will mostly shoot by myself but I will discuss photography with other photographers and compare work. Best of both worlds. There was only one person I really liked shooting with and he is gone now. I think I will be a solo shooter from now on unless my daughter comes with me.
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I’m in the same exact situation… Lonely but hate being around people because of anxiety/fear…
Also…I feel like I’m super weird to everyone I meet. Glad I got this forum 
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Some people say you have to get on with yourself before other people can
But not sure about that
All I know is that very little attention is paid these days to loneliness and I am better for it
Still try the odd dating website or app but I am not so much bothered as I was before
The only thing that frustrates me about dating is that it’s rigged to get you to pay them
Definition of treating single people as a commodity and getting rich
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Yehh dating sites are very expensive.
I don’t like that either.
If you don’t pay for a dating site, it’s just not the same really.
You don’t seem like a girl who would need dating app 