Yeah but i dont even share all details of my life with my partner and neither does she. Like if you have problems sometimes its better to leave it with a therapist or with yourself to deal with. For the most part im open though.
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Agreed. There are certain aspects of my illness my hubby cannot help me with. However if he can’t help me, he guides me to those who can. Being emotionally supportive to me means that I can tell him anything that I want to and even if he doesn’t understand fully, he loves and listens with no judgement.
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Oh yeah 100%. I think my wife wants me to tell her everything lol but i dont want her to be my caretaker i want her to be my wife, so i just do a sort of sliding scale like ‘grows relationship <> erodes relationship’.
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I need to rewatch that trilogy. Forgot most of the plot, really.
With close friends I can be a goof. It takes a long while for me to get comfortable with new faces though.
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If I found a person who I like I would like it to be 100 percent open. Those relationships where there is no secrets seem to be lifelong relationships. I am tired of keeping secrets and in situations where I would not be accepted if they were known.
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I think over the years either my inhibitions dropped or i just got more comfortable around people. Now i cant help myself but joke around with whoever. I used to be shy when I was younger.
My doctor and I just spoke…he’s saying that my voices don’t have to be considered sz
…could change to a bipolar diagnosis
Might help me disclose
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I just hate the word people assume the worst 
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My diagnosis is schizophrenia.
My dad has called me a serial killer.
My former employment coach thought I had a split personality.
The stigma is real.
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My dad told me he thought I would kill him if I didn’t take an antipsychotic so I have to take meds as long as I live with him.
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My dad is just paranoid himself and tends to dramatize.
Luckily I can see things in perspective.
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My parents have never told any relatives what i had just said i had a chemical imbalance. So the secret is large lol
My dad got me into a research facility actually he was very helpful. His colleague knew someone that did fmri and transcranial magnetic therapy studies for psychosis and other disorders.
It was nice my dad had a willingness to learn about mental illness.
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Lucky you!!!
My parents tell all their church buddies but luckily i don’t live in same town anymore lol
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So I told her I have a psychiatrist and that I’m on Abilify. That’s enough for now the mushroom week long trip in 2012 can wait…
I’m waiting for her response
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That’s for you to decide…
I need honesty and openness in a relationship or close friendship. To me it is worthless without. So that’s what I offer as well. I’ve seen too much manipulation in my life to want that in a relationship.
But there are different times and wordings to tell.
It helps that I now have a ptsd diagnosis. It is received a whole lot better than sz. I think you can be open about the practical impact on your life, as you now partly did, rather then say the diagnosis.
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She’s being understanding and is happy I was honest but I don’t know…
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It is different for guys!
Women are more picky due to the child/financial aspect.
Men often have a penchant for ‘crazy’ girls, and are not more likely to worry about the female’s financial aspect.
It is easier for a woman to find a man, less so for men to find a woman if suffering from SZ.
Of course, there will be exceptions to the rule. (and no doubt they will post) but in general the rules apply.
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Nice!
I think this was a good way to be honest. Just small practical details. Without dumping your exact diagnosis and full life story on her on the first day.
Can tell bits of it all in a natural ways…and see how she responds?
What’s she like?
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I think in terms of romantic relationships, I would disclose it on like the second date. You want to be honest in your relationship, and keeping something like schizophrenia in your closet is, one, hard to do, and two, not being a very good partner. Let me extrapolate it further and say that to be honest in a relationship, each other should be aware of faults of one another; that way they know what they’re going to experience further down the line. I don’t know a single schizophrenic who can hold up the disguise for an extended period of time. I wouldn’t do it on the inaugural date simply because you don’t want to scare them away, but I think if you moved on past the initial stages of the relationship, it’s okay to share.
I’m very upfront about my illness, however, as it’s hard for me to hide. I’ve given a talk about my experiences at school, making some of my former teammates cry, as I found out later. And I’ve also mentioned it during a talk I was giving in my church, to which I’ve received a lot of good remarks by people I’ve known literally my whole life, but didn’t know I had the illness. At least here in my small town in Iowa, I’ve not received much stigmatization for my illnesses, but mostly praise.
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You want enough dates to see your a personality match first. Then you can bring the skeletons out of the closet. Everyones got em there just different.
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