Just go careful with your Daughter. And Ninjastar nailed it on the head.
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I a little prejudiced now because I shared an apartment with a records clerk from the police department when I was a young man. That was years ago when I was in my twenties. Thinking about it I was 19 when I worked in the mailroom and couldn’t afford a place on my own.
They’ve been in touch a long time. You would have to be gentle. They must have at least a decent relationship, making it talking to her difficult. I would take @Ninjastar ‘s advice.
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Oh. Yeah this is different. She is an adult now. She has been around him for years. Odds are, if he was a danger to her, she would already be aware of it by now.
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My mom told me about my grandfather when I was older. It didn’t surprise me about him - that he wanted her to have an abortion. That topic is not allowed so I really didn’t want to say it. She didn’t want to do it though.
This info also changes my mind about telling her. It is hard information to receive for anyone. If she is already angry at you, she is more likely to accuse you of lying and push you even further away, and then be less likely to notice dangerous signs from him. Mr. Star accidentally let slip some information surrounding his younger relative’s birth, and it took her two years to be able to speak to him again. He didn’t have anything to do with anything, but he was the one who told her, and people tend to shoot the messenger.
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@anon4362788 my daughter and I have been speaking for a while now.
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I would add my sister is normal but I’m not. DNA testing a few years ago said my sister and I both have the same dad. My mom wasn’t sure who got her pregnant. She was raped though, not by my dad - my sister’s father. I’m glad my sister and I got the DNA test and found out my mom’s husband is my biological father, not the man who raped her. I told her that before she died so she could be at peace. My mom’s husband supposedly has Sz though.
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Really? Huh, wonder why I thought it was tecently you posted about it.
Still, I wouldn’t ever bring up how she was conceived. That’s something horrible to give to someone. She’d forever believe she was responsible for much of your trauma.
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Hugs, @Loke
Parenting never ends, huh? Even when they’re all grown up.
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You got that right!
Yeah. I agree with you. That little baby was my whole world. I wouldn’t devastate her by telling her about how she was conceived.
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As a rape victim myself I just want to tell you that that thing is a total piece of sh!t.
-S
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I’ve forgiven him. I just have always wanted to protect Sparrow. He might be different now.
Here’s the text I sent her last night:
“ Your dad imo was not a good man when I knew him. In divorce court the judge set up supervised visitation.
Idk why to my knowledge he never tried to see you growing up. He had Pawpaw’s phone number.
Pawpaw made a comment when I was pregnant with you that he wouldn’t put it passed your dad to sell you as a baby into another country.Scared the bejesus out of me.
You’re probably asleep.
Anyway I left your dad when I was 8 months pregnant.
Honestly, he liked women and didn’t want to keep a job. He says he was retired from the post office but who retires at 40 years old?
And he smoked Marijuana. It was illegal back then.
Idk what your dad’s like now. Idk if you keep in touch.
I lived in fear he would take you and sell you. It scared me.”
She told me she knew her dad was a bad dude already.
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Ok. That’s good. Now you know.
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Forever in your heart and your wallet.
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@anon4362788 can you close this thread
Thanks everyone for your help.
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