That’s a choice. I socialize as much as I can. It’s a primal need
Sometimes I just feel I have no energy, feeling tired …
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Me too, but once in a while is just enough.
But if you join a club, sport, group, or other social activity, you can make friends. Get together with them. Call them. You’ll be a lot less lonely and it will enable you to practice your social skills.
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I do see people when I ride my bicycle, but I would like to find a girlfriend which has not been possible. I am living in a small town (well 19600 people) and here things are limited. Since my early teenage years I have been a loner and I have had hobbies such as collecting butterflies and other things. These have been hobbies I have been able to do alone. I just do not have enough social skills to connect with people.
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You are not a loser.
Can you try a online dating site?
Recently I wrote to a woman I was in contact on fb, that I’m found of her, and that I think about her all the time.
She just removed hearts she was sending me and blocked me.
I feel your dissappointment.
Keep trying to make friends. Small talk with strangers isn’t enough. You need a friend.
I know what you mean. No woman wants a unpredictable schizophrenic such as myself. Everything that woman in my faith look at, is antithetical to me. I feel lonely, but at least I have friends, and some of them are women, but no one wants me as an significant other. And as soon as I tell a woman of my faith that I’m schizophrenic, I get abruptly met with ghosting, or friend zoned. Conglomerate that with my horrid looking body, and its clear why. I don’t blame the women either, I don’t know if I want to spend the rest of our lives with an mentally ill, unpredictable, and unconfident person.
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people matching on first meeting is considerably rare. You gotta be compatible, so theres always going to be more goodbyes than forevers.
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Sorry to hear about your situation @mjseu— for what it’s worth, you seem like a well-travelled, kind and intelligent person, and I’m sure your match is out there somewhere if that’s what you’re looking for.
Best wishes to you 
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No, you are not a loser. At least you talked to her and asked her for coffee. To me, that sounds like a winner. I’m sorry to hear it didn’t work out. But usually, this is what happens. Now, you don’t need to waste energy on her any more.
Have you tried dating apps?
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If you try new things as mentioned, you might find that meeting people and sharing company with them gives you a buzz.
You will be able to offer your time, genuine warmth and good company to someone and have that reciprocated.
Do you have support from anywhere that can help you to get involved in the community?
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I don’t tell people here where I live now, but I was talking about my life where I lived when I was married. There so many people knew about my mental illness.
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Oh. Small town?
I lived in a small town in Western Spain when I visited Spain in the summer of 2001.
I lived in the house of the town’s mayor, who was also the towns dentist. I always thought it was cute.
Yes, I lived a very small town while I was married. It was almost like a village.
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