I have no friends. I am angry at God for making me sick, and for all the corruption he allows in this world. I super lonely. Their was a girl talking to me online but I’m shallow. I wasn’t attracted to her. It sucks I have no life. I’m not especially close with my family. I’m 26 and still live with my mother. If my mom dies before me I am ■■■■■■. I hate ghosts(Spirits) and aliens because I am so scared of everything. I feel like a total pussy. I want friends but at the same time I just want to be left alone. I’m so ■■■■■■■ lonely. I have Schizophrenia, Anxiety (GAD), Asperger’s, Depression, and ADHD.
I feel like this too sometimes
But 26 is very young you know
I am 44 and shallow too
I have just joined a social group meeting women in order to find friends. We meet twice a month. Get yourself well then look for positive ways to meet friends. Do some volunteer work to get you out and about. Sitting around thinking will drive you mad
Sorry I don’t know anything about the stage of treatment your in so I can’t really say
Could you get a support worker to visit you or a psychologist?
You guys aren’t ‘shallow’. People can’t help who they are attracted to. I have had many men think they are a good sexual/romantic match for me and I didn’t feel it. They got angry and called me ‘shallow’ and it’s total BS! I can’t help who I am and am not attracted to. Neither can you! Also, not very nice guys to get mad about it so I wouldn’t even want to be friends.
Phew! That’s my speech on that.
I also would like to meet someone I am very attracted to who is kind. Would be really nice.
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Thanks 47average for pointing that out
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You always have friends here. But i know what you mean. Maybe check out Meetup to get out there and meet new people. Find a group with similar interests and be social, the rest will fall into place if you stay positive.
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I lived with my mother until I was 34. I bet that if you looked very hard you would find several people on this site who lived with their moms until they were older than 28 years old. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. You’re not well. If you could do better I’m sure you would. You might think about applying for disability. If you can get disability and move into public housing you ought to be relatively secure. Look for other support that’s available to you. You can get day treatment. It’s important not to become isolated, especially for schizophrenics. I would do this immediately. It can take a while to get disability, so the sooner the better.
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Buy a thing called a candy girl. You order one exactly how you like it. They start at $5000. I’m waiting till they get movement with robotics. If I have to I’ll sell my house and buy one. It’s a realistic lifesize doll designed exactly how you want that doesn’t talk,or complain. And always says yes. They totally tick off the feminists! Exactly why I’m getting one. Few more years!
I have been there and done that. Now the only pussy I get is cats. Like, I even ended up in some girl’s bedroom and I remember picking up her cat when she acted open to whatever. That is hardcore keeping it gangster. I mean she probably wanted to have sex, and I was like “Nope. Look! Kitty!”
You know, I went around being promiscuous when I was in college, now I am lucky to be clean and not a parent.
I did hit some great heights in the dark. Felt good. Tainted my soul.
I probably would have done pretty bad things if I didnt think I had an STD the last time.
Well, just know that there are bigger things in life. I and my cohort of people I keep in touch with are all getting older, and becoming a professional is the new “I just got laid.” Like, getting accepted into medical is the new good stuff.
Well, I have been there and done that and nearly got the HIV medal. Look at what an honorable fight it is.
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that is definitely true.
don’t know how I’d fare without my brother.
as for lover: I’m my own lover.
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I mean if you aren’t attracted to her I guess there is not that much you can do. If I was talking with a woman I would keep talking to her. Just because it is always nice to have a friend. I remember when I felt like a coward too. That feeling that you are brave or at least normal comes back slowly after a psychotic break. I live with my parents and am in a similar situation. I am currently looking for a job that will allow me to take care of myself.
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I know all about having no friends and no dates, and I feel for you. I have just a few friends now, but I’m very content with that, after going through so many years of social isolation. They are people I met through the gf of someone I worked with 12 years ago, odd how it worked out. I like @shellys12’s idea of volunteer work, good way to get out and meet people. You can’t force friendship, you just have to get out there one way or another and meet people, and hopefully friendships will follow.
As for dating, there are always the dating sites online, but honestly I think you’re better off getting yourself taken care of before you try getting into a relationship. That’s just my opinion, though, you can take it or leave it. As for me, I’m single and not looking because I don’t think I’m in a good place for that right now. I’m terrible at getting dates the natural way, so I tend to stick to Match.com; I’ve had some success with that site.
How much success? I remember I tried to go on match for a month and got totally ignored.
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sites, like okcupid, are only good for making men sad.
stopped using them
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Did you have a paid subscription and pictures on your profile? I didn’t even look at profiles that did not have both of those.
Yes I had both. Maybe you’re a hunk or something. I don’t know if it comes down to that. I got ignored by every woman that I tried to message. Of course maybe it takes longer than a month I don’t know.
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Lmao! I don’t know about all that, but I think I exhibit confidence, and that’s a big plus in attracting a mate. And yes, it can take a little time. Some women on there can be a bit snobbish when it comes to setting income minimums for dating partners. I once saw a woman on there who put in her profile that she would not date a man who makes less than 100k. Ridiculous. Even if I made that kind of money I wouldn’t go for a woman who makes that a requirement.
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I have zero friends. Zero. I have no lovers. No husband or female lover. I choose celibacy. My parents are dead. My sister hates me. And my brother lives out of state and he’s too busy for me with his job, wife, kids and millions of friends. I am literally all alone. And I spend all my time alone too in my apartment, only going to the dining room occasionally for breakfast and every day for dinner. I go to Rosary group every weekday and mass every Saturday morning. Other than that, I’m alone in my apartment.
But, I’m never lonely. Because I have God in my life. God is literally my very best and closest friend in the whole wide world. I pray to Him in Lectio Divina every single morning and we talk to each other in this format. I look forward to my chats with God. He guides and coaches me in my everyday life. He talks to me and answers to my thoughts, feelings, actions, judgements, etc…And I talk back to Him. We always end our conversations on a contemplative note. Like a thought for the day. I pray evening prayer too. Just to stay in touch with God at the end of the day. I wouldn’t live my life any other way. It makes me very happy.
I also have an empty bowl meditation practice, a yoga practice, an ayurvedic health practice, and I play piano on a regular, daily basis. And, I own a beautiful cream orange tabby cat named Simba. All of these things keep me very busy and very happy in spite of no friends or lovers. Who needs them?
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I just want someone to drink jager with and play ping pong.
And concerts.
A lover, no fffuuuuuccckkiiinnggg way man. That’s just sick.
As one ages, esp. in the experience category, they become less and less of a walking talking genetalia.
Ew, they call it “love”, like they are eating cake again except with their disgusting bodies. Disgusting.
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I’m intimidated by some men on dating sites. I fear that I am not educated or bougie enough. I don’t have cable internet so I don’t watch all the shows and I only read Terry Pratchett novels and slowly at that. 
I guess it never occurred to me that my education would be a source of intimidation. I certainly am not living in luxury or anything like that. I try to downplay the fact that I’m flat broke, living in a ghetto. I don’t exactly live the kind of life you’d expect from someone with a master’s degree.
A person’s level of formal education is not a good predictor of how intelligent they are. I’ve met some very intelligent uneducated people, just as I have met some educated dumbasses. I wouldn’t worry too much about that. I think a lot of the more mature guys are like me and care more about what is in a woman’s heart, and how that woman treats her mate. 