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She meant well

i made the comment to my clinical psychologist that my life has really sucked …she agreed.
take care

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Not what you want to hear from a psychologist. She should have at least TRIED to lie and tell you that it isn’t that bad.

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I’m sorry she said that. That is what you can expect from someone who has yet to give in to the dark side of the force (j/k I hope that is where your name comes from. If not I am sorry.)

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I have a question for you:

If one day you came and told her that you were exceptionally lucky in this life and gave her all the arguments you could think of, do you believe she would’ve disagreed? Care to try?

Your therapist is there to help you put things in perspective, not think instead of you and surely not to lie for you. You’re the one supposed to do the thinking and coming up with reasons why maybe it’s not that bad. Try to do that. See how she reacts. Maybe she was planning something when she said that.

I was in therapy with a pdoc who specialised in therapy too. I told her "I will finish my psychology studies and I will starve to death, because I have no idea what I should do afterwards"she said “no, you won’t starve to death, youo will manage to make a living as aa psy. But if you don’t study now, you will just be a very bad Psy. That’s all.” - Got me to think and realize that I was complainign too much. I stopped visiting her (it was too expensive for my family, and in another town) and started to study hard and try to become independent, so I could alleviate my fears. It worked. As soon as I got a job I couldn’t care less if I was a psy or not, all it mattered was to be the best in my area of expertise, whatever that was at the moment.

I became a customer service agent. For a SZ , who does not get emotions and has trouble communicating, that was …an interesting career path to follow. :smile:

So maybe, just maybe, she said that just to startle you and make you re-think your attitude. It worked, didn’t it? You wrote here because you are thinking. Maybe, just maybe, you will find a great answer to give her. Will you please try? :sunny:

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no she just was being honest with me, she has helped me heaps, but she does not sugar coat things…
she always says that what i have been through since early childhood to now…it is amazing that i am still alive…most people like me commited suicide a long time ago…
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no you got it right , i am a dark lord, the secret son of darth vader…the force runs strong in my family !?!
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@darksith The real question of any Star Wars fan is did Han shoot first.

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I see it as being honest. Maybe she was hearing some emphasis on the HAS. You life HAS… Past tense. True… you have struggled and suffered and I can only imagine what else from the small glimpse you post. I am in awe of your strength.

But even though it’s not all roses now… you have what sounds to be a nice piece of land in a beautiful place… A lovely Mrs. Sith, good coffee, and nice cup cakes.

Here’s to a life getting better then it has been. :coffee: :cake:

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My last therapist never sugar coated things also - that was fine with me, but I was not really well also, so their were times I felt that she could have been a bit more ‘gentle’

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No wonder clinical psychology majors have such a high unemployment rate.

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Very interesting stats on psychology and unemployment - thanks for this

You are welcome, Wave.

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the positive things, is what keeps me going. i just had a rough 4 days, apologies…i try and keep most of the bad stuff to my self.
thank you for what you wrote , sometimes you have to be reminded of the good things you have.
take care

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