Self-destructive behaviour

Health and Recovery
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Chaos begets chaos. We feel comfortable around instability because our formative years were spent in it. Fortunately, we can work through it as adults, but it just takes time and effort. Maturity helps, forgiveness too. While never condoning bad parenting, we can learn to move on.

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Hugs to you as well, i know not one of us deserves it i understand that maybe is a trained repose to believe that who knows for sure. I do put a lot of it down to call it world view whats normal and whats becomes normal. Just whats normal to me is a horror to others really can change the view of self destructive vs normal. I covered some of that in a other post

But yea is a big step forward i do get in a mess over finding a balance of getting better and getting soft

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First we dont actually know the way things work out on the grand scheme. The most probable is randomness and we land somewhere on that spectrum. Then… theres no such thing as normal. Things and people are full of issues and horror stories. We have lucky breaks sometimes and learning to take the best out of stuff is a life long battle. Im sure you’re equipped to deal with whatever comes now. And your past is in the past. You can only dream the future and live the present moment.

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normal as is the social form of it. sounds like cross words being was normal for me at 12 to spend a night packing drugs and the morning running them around the city with money or sexual favors for the police that was normal form the social view that’s not but to me is was. Sorry for not being clear.

A odd tone in the reply i am sure that’s jsut me reading it and seeing old sore points that have nothing to do with you Minnii
I do not believe you are a 60 something years old Russian pdoc I once got to see.

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Someday you’ll be able to put that all behind you. You are a very strong person.

I didnt take it personally, you need to vent.

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Before i end up starting a fight here LOOK!

NOM NOM NOM NOM NOM!

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I have learned to tell when i need to vent and when is crossing over into Picking a fight to vent.
Before i found my pdoc who is so great I picked fights will all of them ones before and well i did just fight alot so yea take it as me stepping away out is all.