Self compassion?

Hey guys … yesterday I was feeling down and I had a new experience because of it. Usually when I’m feeling down I get mad and blame/resist the idea that I have the issues I do and become very resentful.

yesterday I think I felt compassion for my self for the first time. Like I don’t think through all of the persecution delusions and many other issues I have I have taken a step back and look at how hard life has been on me…at least from a mental health perspective.

I think I try to be more understanding and compassionate to the people who don’t hurt me in life … against all the negativity in my mind but I never actually do that for myself.

Has anybody had that moment when you finally realized you life has been pretty difficult and instead of self hatred you see that compassion is the answer?

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Self-compassion is important. Everyone should buy themselves another camera.

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I think self compassion is very important and having compassion in general. Theres a lot of frailty in the planet

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Yea… Seems like compassion is more robust than self loathing or not being fair to yourself. All we want is to be happy :blush:

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My son is getting into cameras and video editing. I guess he bought a cannon d -something and now he wants a new one.

I’m more a sound/computer lover myself !!!

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Well, the upgrade may or may not be worth it. I went on vacation last week and I have a new Canon EOS R5 (it was over $5,000 for the body alone), but I took along a used Canon EOS 50D (cost me $70) to use instead in case someone pilfered a camera out of my car. I am more than pleased with the images I brought back.

It’s usually better to look for a used camera with a low shutter count than to buy new. Let someone else eat the depreciation. Also, avoid online resellers and go directly to estate sales and such for the best deal.

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Very nice photo man… as always :blush:

Also… I’m gonna pass that on to him. He’s only 17 so I’m not sure he’s up on the game yet!! Thanks man👍🏾

That’s a good point. I have some self hatred because I am now addicted to vaping nicotine. And I just have to forgive myself. And try my best to stop it. Maybe if I have compassion on myself. I’ll be able to let it go. I also I’m hating on myself for getting into credit card debt. But I should just let it go and pay it off as soon as I can. I do see compassion on myself in a way as helping me.

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Yea I guess having compassion for mistakes, addiction and illness is a good thing. After all… what the hell does hatting yourself do :person_shrugging:t5:

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Yeah, having compassion for one’s self is important, especially with this damn illness.

I’m glad that you felt compassion for yourself @signless

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I think it is important to be calm before attempting changes that ‘should’ further you toward a better life or recovery. Combining self-compassion with acceptance of the circumstances can uplift people through events of adversity.

Self-compassion can help people calm down, and it is important to cancel a destructive social-narrative feedback loop, which other people may be placing you into. If your choices are continued self-destruction OR acceptance and self-compassion, then certainly the latter is preferable, but it also requires some self-awareness of yourself and past-reflection, which is not easy with a disease like Schizophrenia or within this world of (purposeful) information convolution.

Yet I think self-compassion is one small band-aid to a tiny crack in the leaking dam. Being calm and reflective does not necessarily make dealing with other people easier who do not share your own views of compassion (towards yourself.)

While one pair of people somewhere on the planet are making love to each other right now, another pair are facing each other in deadly combat, (in that very same moment, some of us find self-pity for our situation instead of compassion.) Having self-compassion does not change a situation you may find yourself in, but it can help you get to the point where you can accept taking appropriate action.

Perhaps, taking use of this ‘time of calming’ to remove things which create a negative reaction or feedback loop (stressors), or any chemical disbalancements (lack of exercise, drugs, fake-food diet, sleep troubles, etc…), and then fix those problems is the next step to recovery, and prevent a relapse into preventable patterns.

On top of that, you need to learn to be a objective and fair judge, so the impulsive, destructive, coercive actions of other people does not affect your life, and you can administer fair recourse to prevent harms which might be done. That requires wisdom, self-control and maturity, none of which come easily in a ignorant and chaotic environment, but can be found by self-reflection and personal scrutiny.

I guess what I am getting at, is that a lot of us find ourselves in loops, so don’t let the tiny band-aid become another collapsed dam. Rebuild and break out of those loops, find information which helps and discard things which enable the loops.

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I think it was a fleeting thing appreciate that man!! Taking it to heart. I really do see things more objectively when I’m calm. I was thinking of changing my reactions to the stressors as my first positive conscious step toward recovery but maybe calming should be the foundation of my defense… Idk but I really appreciate your words man.

I have moments like this. Usually when I’m feeling really upset I’ll just beat myself up for my mistakes. But occasionally, I have the thought that maybe I’m not so bad and that I was just dealt a bad hand. It always makes me feel a little better.

Also I recently found this song that embodies the feeling you’re describing. I hope you like it.

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Just worry about your own peace, we’re too busy as a society meddling in the affairs of others. Don’t be a busy body. Let yourself rest.Consciousness is always looking to label and control something to assert it’s dominance. Everything in moderation. Have a good day

Thanks bro :slightly_smiling_face: you have a good day too

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I tend to have more compassion for others than for myself. Most people who know me say I’m a kind person but i am, honestly, rather brutal to myself. I think that’s why i have so much self harm damage to my arms.

That sucks whiteraven. I’m also not very kind to myself some times. Years ago when it was really bad I always wanted to crack my head open with a brick but I ready books about self compassion and radical acceptance that really got me through.

I hope you also have some source to help with those feeling about yourself

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