Sometimes I wonder why I feel this way… I tend to post pictures on Instagram or Facebook, even though they don’t really bring me any benefit—neither money nor attention.
I keep trying to prove that I’m happy, beautiful… more beautiful than before, that life is better than it used to be.
Essentially, I’m seeking attention—even though in real life I’m just an ordinary person, definitely not an eccentric personality.
When I think about it more deeply, I guess I’m creating a world on social media that I lacked in childhood—a world where I’m heard and loved.
It’s quite a specific question… what do you think, how do you deal with something like this?
And does it annoy you when people are seeking attention in social media?
I figure people are allowed to present how they want on social, but I avoid the ones that don’t feel authentic. I don’t really follow influencers, per se. I have mostly abandoned Insta now because it moved away from being a home for photographers.
My feelilng is that if you are enjoying yourself, then don’t worry about it so much. You enjoy taking selfies, but your selfies are very high quality and I think it’s fine if it makes you happy sharing them.
Well, like the old saying goes: “If you got it, flaunt it.” You’re good looking so why not show it off? You like posting flattering pictures of yourself and people like seeing them so I don’t see the harm in that. As to trying to prove your happy, well that’s what Facebook and Instagram are to millions of people. I personally would never do it because it would be too big of a stretch to make believe I’m good looking or happy; it would take a lot of exaggeration to pull that off.
I want to say that it calmed me down… Sometimes I feel like I’m acting foolishly or even wrongly – quite a few people have said that what I’m doing is hopeless and silly.
But sometimes it really is fun to do it, it’s a kind of strange way to spend time – but when I look at the photos or my profile, I remember what was happening during those days.
Thank you for the compliments! And come to think of it… it’s true, some people go to great lengths to prove they’re happier and more successful than they really are – that’s how things work online.
Sometimes I just feel that it’s a rather ‘empty’ activity that doesn’t really bring anything meaningful.
It’s “social” media. It’s an opportunity to socialise. For some socialising is foolish for some life essential. In real life socialising you too, try to be happy and not a problem. Who makes friends with a problem friend ?
Our world has changed and some people find community online and share their lives online. That’s fine. It’s a bit harder for people my age to wrap their heads around, but I don’t think that it is wrong, just different. The only thing I’d point out – and I’m sure you already know this – is that you’re a very attractive, younger female. You may attract unwanted attention as a result of this, so if you’re going to be sharing a lot online then you need to increase your personal security.
Not trying to make you paranoid, it’s just a sad reality. I don’t see any problem with what you’re doing and I don’t think it is nice of others to be judging you in this way.
I just post what I’m thinking at the moment on facebook, reaching out to family and friends a lot too…makes me feel in contact with those I love..and that’s my only reason I use facebook.
Hmm, as I mentioned, part of beauty is created through a certain angle, lighting, or pose. I’m quite average—in life, I’ve experienced all sorts of things, both online and on the street, but I’m always glad that I haven’t been seriously harmed, like attacked or anything like that. Thanks for the concern, nonetheless @shutterbug
I don’t know if I do it for my loved ones—probably more for myself. Considering that I dedicate a lot of time to the people I love and we live together (I’m mainly talking about my boyfriend). My parents, on the other hand, don’t really care. @jukebox
