Its my sister’s bf… Before sz i was shy with new people, but now I’m absolutely mortified. I’m gonna make a fool of myself. wish me luck.
sorry to hear that,but I wish you all the best in meeting your sisters bf
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I was painfully shy as a kid. I had to meet people a lot because of my dad’s job. He said I was rude because I would hide. I’m not sure what changed.
Does your sister know how hard it is? Hopefully she can make sure the location is comfortable for you. It can also help to be somewhere that you know you’ll be able to excuse yourself if you need to. Go to the restroom and try some breathing exercises.
If it were me, I would try listening to music I knew would help ground me and calm me right before. I know that doesn’t help everyone, but if there’s something like that you can do it would be a good idea. Hopefully he’s a cool guy though and future meetings won’t be uncomfortable, maybe even fun 
Good luck!
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Thanks for the help. Well, i’m gonna be in my house and they say i only have to meet him in passing. but i have no practice or experience meeting new people and don’t know what to do or how to be. I’m fearing humiliation.
Do you think i should meet him today and get it over with or wait a little while and maybe talk it thru with my therapist on wednesday?
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You know… you might want to let your sister know your having a hard time meeting this BF…
he might be just as nervous about meeting the family as you are of meeting him.
Good luck and I have a feeling the meeting will go fine… it will most likely not take very long…
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Hello I am not sure about your situation because I am not there
For me I just see the people which I know I will messed up and I mostly messed up,it’s not very tactful but I did this a lot because sometimes you just cannot prepare for everything
If the situation ALLOW,wait for it after your therapy and talked to your therapy about how to deal with meeting your sis BF,If it’s not allowed,I would say just brave it through really,if it’s not good forget about it at the end of the day…but it might be a good bonding session got you if you feel just good with your sis BF
ok thanks. i will talk to my therapist.
If your sister is willing and can arrange it maybe there can be an exit plan set up. It could be a casual meeting where they are stopping in to say hi and then if you seem to not be doing well she can steer the situation to them continuing about their day. She could say she needs to run an errand before a certain time type thing.
Just be calm,say hello n try to be ur self! He’s the one that should be nervous cause he needs to make a good impression with n ur parents if he gonna date ur sister
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you can do this.
we sz think the worst…
but reality we come across as pretty normal people.
know someone cares 
take care 
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