when I ruminate, it is usually negative. something I did years ago that may have been embarrassing or showed some character flaw (things no one else remembers but me); i’ll think about it and pretend to pull the trigger at my temple. it is a habit/ routine I go through on a regular basis. And when I ruminate about something positive, I become ocd with it and I have to force myself to stop because I know it is not healthy to think this way. I can’t even appreciate my positive self talk. any tips or suggestions to keep the brain in balance?
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Learn to stay focused in the moment.
Easier said than done, but, why focus on the things that you can’t change?
Live and forget…at least let go of the stuff you punish yourself for- especially when you understand that others probably don’t even remember any of it at all.
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I constantly have unwanted random memories pop into my conscious-self and I end up thinking about these things deeply and like you say, mostly negative. I am sure many people do this who don’t have issues - it’s probably quite normal.
I guess it depends how traumatising the memories are and if they cause you distress. Sounds like something perhaps speaking to a consoler about to see if they can help.
I am not sure where you live, but I recently go in touch with a charity who provide it free - it’s a long train ride though. Worth a look to see if theres something similar to you.
Hope you find your way through this.
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@csummers: thanks, more practice is needed at being mindful. The only time I don’t go into this rewind state is when I’m exercising. When I go jog, the only thing I think about is my breath and how my legs feel. no one else is spending energy thinking about these things, why should I.
@Joker: I do see a therapist (guessing you call them consolers) and I bring it up regularly. She tells me to keep a list of small accomplishments and to write them down. I’ll bring it up again.
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