I had surgery on my ankle to repair some damage and remove hardware on the 15th. I was allowed two days rest before I was expected to jump back into the swing of things.
I’ve been picking up dog poop, taking out trash a lot of trash. Carrying two 5 gallon jugs of saltwater down the stairs. Carrying a cabinet to the back porch. rearranging the cabinets completely because my in laws aren’t happy with how we had them. My ankle is really hurting today and when my mother in law heard that she said well everyone goes through surgeries you just have to push through it
Well I’m also mad because i went to the food pantry today and she had to be the first one through it. She got the strawberry jelly I wanted, the small box of donut holes, bread and tooth hygiene products all of which I picked out for me. She said well you got a can of soda. Its one freaking can of soda they spend 100’s of dollars on soda a month. What’s one little can of soda gonna hurt?
Dr told me and my partner I can walk on it but dont push it. He said my range of motion should be better after the surgery. He said there is 68% chance of the surgery improving my ankle
You do what the doctor recommends and that’s it. Period. Your in-laws are not doctors and do not care 1 ounce for your well being. They want a clean house and they are willing to sacrifice your ankle to achieve that. This situation got ridiculous 9 months or a year ago. The stuff they make you do is like you’re a slave or something.
Explain again why you can’t move away to some part of the country that has affordable housing, bus lines, and a low cost of living? Do these people know you’re human? Are they human? To make someone do physical work after a surgery and then flippantly say something like it’s normal, shows their cruelty has no bounds. They don’t give a damn if you re-injure your ankle or not. I haven’t run into bullies like them since high school.
You are basically risking a life long disability just for some cruel people who don’t care about you at all, can have a clean house.
I just feel bad when I don’t help. I grew up struggling because of my parents illnesses and vices. I worry that if I leave my partner’s parents will struggle or worse my partner and I struggled like we did when we tried to live alone before. But I lost my job,
got evicted twice and hospitalized then had to be humiliated into moving back in with my parents or in the future my in laws
You have no reason to feel bad. You have more than earned your keep in that house. They give you the worst jobs, why should you feel bad when these people not only treat you like crap but they take your money?
You have no reason to care anything about those cruel, heartless abusers. You don’t owe them s*hit. They should thank their lucky stars that some mental health worker hasn’t discovered what they are getting away with and turned them into some agency who handles abuse claims. What they do to you on a daily basis might even be considered criminal.
It seems they think you’re their own personal Cinderella. It can be difficult to say No to strong willed people but your ankle is more important than the duties your in laws should be doing themselves. Sorry but they have you right where they want you.
cbbrown, maybe you and your partner should sit down with a pencil and paper and make some kind of plan for moving out. I’ve heard it said that writing down goals actually helps achieve them. Maybe just write down some goals such as saving a little money each month toward moving out. Get an idea of how much it would cost to find a place for you and your partner and then putting aside a little money each month towards getting a place. Check out the job market in different places. Explore your options in regard to finding a place. If you write it down and look at it regularly it might motivate you to make a change. It might be a good first step anyways.