Hey. So my friend told me yesterday she needed a break from us communicating due to her mental illness.
I really took it hard and drank a beer.
She’s already back to talking to me throughout the day and changed her mind. We’re discussing what she’s struggling with in her life
That said, for fellow recovering addicts - what do you do when something hits you really hard deep in your gut? What helps you the most to get through that day?
I would sleep it off
@LilyoftheValley are you a recovering addict?
One beer is not that bad by usual standards.
If drinking used to be a problem, I would throw away whatever you’ve got and maybe make a new promise to yourself.
Really the problem isn’t the beer, it’s that you felt like you needed something like that because of feeling abandoned. I don’t know, I wish you the best.
I just think if I don’t drink for 24 hours, everything will be ok. I take it 24 hours at a time.
You had a slip, and that can happen. Just get back on the wagon.
Hungry (H)
Angry (A)
Lonely (L)
Tired (T)
HALT is a good acronym for when you’re most vulnerable where you have to be extra careful.
I used to drink a few beers a night every night. Not sure if that qualifies as an addict but I self medicate with alcohol so in that sense I’m an addict. I never drank and then drove or missed important things as a result of drinking.
I can’t get rid of the beer because my husband drinks it. But, I have no intention of having more.
Just looking for better things to do when I feel intensely bad and am wanting to self medicate
That’s exactly how I need to look at it. I feel like I need to physically get my focus elsewhere too though.
I think that’s less a question of addiction and more question of depression.
I just know that no matter what I go through or what happens to me I can’t drink or use or my life will go downhill very quickly. After 33 years of being clean and sober, when hard times or hard situations hit, it literally doesn’t even cross my mind to pick up drugs or a drink.
I’m glad for you @77nick77 . That’s great!
I don’t think you sound like an addict… but I do think you suffer too much on emotional and psychiatric levels! Wish I could give you a meaningful hug. I am sure a lot of people on the site would agree that you are too hard on yourself! So hang in there and definitely talk to your PDoc about these feelings.
I hope I don’t sound condescending I just want to help.
Ok @FreeLunch . Actually my case manager did some assessments on me last week and concluded I need better/different treatment. As a result I see my pdoc tomorrow. I’ll tell her about my struggles
Oh - and thank you for the hug and for caring @FreeLunch
I wish I could give you some good tips for staying clean and sober @LilyoftheValley. I always had the support of the group or my sponsor when I was tempted to use in my early sobriety, if I wanted to use they could always give me a quick reality check about what it’s like out there for an addict or alcoholic.
That makes me very happy to hear!
@77nick77 My husband doesn’t want me to go to AA because he thinks they’ll try to convince me to leave him.
So, I joined a therapy group for it but I was the only one who showed up other than the therapists 4 weeks in a row so it got canceled. They might restart it though in the fall.
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