I’ve been told that I read better then I listen. At first I was a little hurt by that, but the source (yes, the kid) meant it as a simple observation.
She said that she can tell I’m trying to listen and she knows I’m trying to concentrate and get what she says into my memory, but sometimes she can tell that if she’s talking too much or explaining something with too much information she knows she’s loosing me.
She says I tend to tilt my head and close one eye when I’m having a hard time concentrating and still trying to hang in there. She likes to write important stuff down so I can read it, come back to it later, take it in smaller chunks.
She also told me that sometimes, what I heard is not at all what she said so if she writes it down, there is less confusion. I’m a little embarrassed because my boss writes stuff down all the time so… I get the feeling this is another one of those situations where everyone knows this about me, but me.
I know I don’t talk as well as I write, but I was hoping I was getting at least half of the communication process.
As far as school, the kid sis got me to sign up for more of the services at the students with disabilities office and they have a service where classes ask someone with good grades to volunteer to e-mail their notes and the person in the class who has the disability can have a copy of the notes. That is going to help me a lot. I didn’t think about the concentration levels required for a lecture… I’m going to do this, but I’m still a bit nervous about going back to school.
Does any one else have this problem? Reading vs. listening?