God the only girl I ever dated was a 26 year old virgin…that relationship lasted three weeks. She had no respect for anything not Christian. She was nuts. Didn’t believe in the Big Bang. She had a strong personality for someone who’s never done drugs… The one time I had sex in my life was with an escort I paid her a $110 tip because I thought she would say no to me if I didn’t tip her. I respected her even though she was a prostitute…she ended up liking me and my tip enough…she stayed 5 hours until I told her to leave. She taught me lots of things though. She got me into astrology. Asked what sign I was. She was a Scorpio. Which isn’t the best match with a gemini but my moon Is Scorpio. And my rising is Capricorn while her moon was Capricorn. She said that gave us a special bond. We emailed a couple times after. She called me doll. I wish I had the option to choose how promiscuous I could be. I’d probably choose one girlfriend I wouldn’t cheat on. But it’s different with guys and girls. Men prefer relationships while girls prefer to be single. Girls also have peak libido at 30 men at 18-21. Plays a factor. I believe women are conditioned to make wiser decisions by the time their libido peaks while men are very immature at peak sexual desire age.
Ftr I didn’t enjoy sex but it was nice to lose my virgibity after dwelling on it as my only priority for 5 years
Lol that’s soooo sweet
I broke up with the virgin girl partly cuz she was saving herself for marriage. So in the back of my mind I still want to enjoy sex. I’d rather be with a reformed promiscuous girl than a virgin…I’m too old to take a girls virginity. I find myself attracted to sexual women. I had an issue called schizophrenia since 11 years old. First time I talked to a girl past 13 yrs old was when I was 18…it was too late then. By 19 I became obsessed with losing virginity but I was too far behind in life. Now I just don’t care much. I’d rather watch sports with my family than get a gf to talk ■■■■■■■■ with. Idk.
Part if the reason I like drugs a lot
Thought it was the other way around?
Well the happiest people are married men. #2 is single women then married women then single men.
It’s always been the opposite with me. Due to my messiah complex I suppose.
Interesting! I never read that before! I would have never guessed that.
It’s funny, there are a ton of studies that line up similarly. Men sleep better with a partner, women sleep better alone. Single women have the highest life expectancy, then married men, then married women, then single men. That last one could be a little out of order, but it’s in that general pattern.
Any idea why married men are more happy than unmarried? And why unmarried women are more happy?
Based on the older men I talk with at work, I’d think marriage was comparable to getting a sentence of life in prison.
I think its all ■■■■■■■■.
That is exactly a kind of discourse about sexuality that tries to shape individual experiences and, what is the funniest, you will find that those ‘studies’ are changing every decade. (Why?)
Oh, lol. I work mainly with women, it sounds like the same thing to me. Another was that women are far more likely to initiate divorce proceedings than men.
I can only guess. As far as sleeping together goes, there was another study about the kinds of noises that wake men up compared to those that wake women up, and there was a tendency for men to sleep through human sounds but be woken up by mechanical things, and for women the trend was reversed - men were more likely to be woken up by a dripping faucet than a baby’s cry, for example. So possibly men sleep better through a partner’s sounds, while women are more likely to be awoken by them.
As far as happiness goes, I’m not sure - perhaps it’s because women overall are responsible for more of the domestic work in the home than men, at least in the United States. So being married means more work for a woman, and being single means more work for a man. But I don’t know, these are all just generalizations and guesses.
I can tell you that I work in a field where family changes need to be reported, and overall, the deaths of men are reported to us in a far more timely manner than the deaths of women. Men we usually find out about within the week. Women, it can be months or years. My observation is that the person who would usually be responsible for making that kind of report in a family is the woman. She’s available to do it when it’s the man that dies. When she herself dies, it just doesn’t get done.
You are very likely right I love reading these things, but what defines happiness? It’s so subjective. Whatever we’re taught to want changes from year to year, and whether we see ourselves as having it changes accordingly. It’s fashion.
From my experience, the single guys I know simply live in trashed houses and the work doesn’t get done at all! While married guys have their wives to nag them to mow and such!
Relationships are really hard, no matter how you slice it. In my not so humble opinion, a man and woman should get married, keep a house, have children, and have a lot of fun. But that’s not always how it goes. There are more exceptions to the rule than regular relationships. I don’t know what’s right. All I know is it’s really really hard to find someone and keep things tidy around the house.
Modesty is a virtue. That said. I’ve got a laundry list taller than my height. And baskets of real laundry to finish today too.
Consenting adults should do what they want and everyone else can mind their own business…
Personality problem or whore did you think?
My 50 men? Only adds up to less than 2 a year…
Any less and I wouldn’t have had a man to protect me almost non stop throughout my adult life
Only times there was no man I was with a good girlfriend and I have sometimes ended up in bed with them too
I’ve been thinking about this, and I have a hard time lumping sexual activity in with morality.
When I think of morality, I think of greed, how people control others, how people judge and malign others, prejudice, and other issues.
Sexual activity and levels of being sexually active seems to have different meanings and thresholds in different cultures.
The reason I have only had one partner is because I valued the traditions of the Jews & Christians. I felt that if there was a proper truth about morality & God, it would be to limit thyself to someone you intend to marry - that quality trumps quantity when it comes to love & lust.
Now I’m keeping myself limited just out of regard for the nature of STD’s & unwanted pregnancies. I don’t want to bear children with someone that I do not love, neither do I want to struggle with diseases.
It isn’t “false” morality. If anything it’s the closest thing we have to a truth about the nature of sexuality & swapping bodily fluids.