I think people can be prideful even if they are self hateful. I see it with my and life, as well as multiple people on my dad’s side. The loathing often comes as reaction to failures, and then the self-pity comes in takes over until you feel extremely ill of self-pity. All of the sudden, the pain feels good, and thats when selfishness squeezes out of you a sense self-righteous despair. It may not be the colloquial version on pride, but once you’re in this state of mind, it’s eyes has locked you in.
I don’t really know why I felt like posting this, but maybe saying it in a coherent way, I can get past this.
ive experienced self hate but never much self pity for long. ive def had pride sometimes tho like feeling like im living through ■■■■■■■■ but its making me stronger and proving i can perservere even if i hate it. kinda like the pain of feeling like a bad person all the time will pay off in the end once im able to see myself or feel like im being seen as somewhat good
Self pity in a sense can be a warped way of having self compassion. Many people obtain feelings of love from sympathy. Its generally ok but it could become a problem if you consistently put yourself in situations where you can feel like a victim to derive this feeling of self pity from. I believe this is where the pride and negative behaviors start.