Yes, I agree entirely. I’d have to be very selective with my partners. I don’t like dating people who can’t hold their own emotionally. I also don’t want anyone who doesn’t know how to argue effectively. I will never be with someone who calls me names, angry or not, and so many men do this. I never name call in an argument with an SO, it’s unnecessary. There are healthy ways to argue wo putting each other down.
Honestly, poly is probably unrealistic af for me. It’s difficult to find one person on my level, let alone multiple.
I think the biggest red flag in this “relationship” with him, is my psychosis. It’s what’s really holding me back. He has no idea, and I’d rather end it on good terms, than be rejected and thought of as on par with a serial killer or something.
He’s truly the best guy I’ve dated though. The most mature person I’ve been with. We work well together.
Then it is up to you. I will say that it is 100% impossible to be in a loving and committed relationship without opening up yourself to the possibility of very painful rejection.
“In general, men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey(GSS).”
“Among ever-married adults ages 18 to 29, women are slightly more likely than men to be guilty of infidelity (11% vs. 10%)”
But this gap quickly reverses among those ages 30 to 34 and grows wider in older age groups. Infidelity for both men and women increases during the middle ages. Women in their 60s report the highest rate of infidelity (16%), but the share goes down sharply among women in their 70s and 80s. By comparison, the infidelity rate among men in their 70s is the highest (26%), and it remains high among men ages 80 and older (24%). Thus, the gender gap in cheating peaks among the oldest age group (ages 80+): a difference of 18 percentage points between men and women."
It can be terrible to have only one person in your life because their name calling and opinions kind of shape your whole social identity. If theres noone else looking at you another way your self perception can get fcked
