it seems that after a certain age suicidal tendencies goes away so they think i wont die now so they don’t care about me. don’t tell me to take medications or care to make me socialize. it hurts. i sometimes get afraid i might die a horrible death in the future. i try to eat healthy and exercise. i think i am a victim and not my behavior, what do you say?
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I say you should reach out to the people around you and tell them about your fears. It sounds like you’re doing well and that’s wonderful! The people around you who gave you more attention when they thought you needed more see that you’re doing better so they’re giving you your space and respecting you enough to trust you, that’s wonderful too!
But if you just need to know that they still care, then check in with them. I think you’ll find that they care every bit as much, but there’s no need to coddle you when you’re doing well.
Celebrate how you’re doing better now. 
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i’m not doing well. every time i feel a little better inside my head the voice intrude and say something awful. i need to be treated like president now but i am getting sh it treatment. i think they stopped loving me.
@Abu_man. They may not realize that. You might be good at hiding. Your problems.
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Yes your thinking sounds negative which is something I think happens to a lot of us schiz. Yes I think you need to talk to somebody in your real life. What about seeing a therapist?
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therapist are human beings and i attached to the person too much whoever gives me the therapy especially if they are good looking. so i don’t really like therapy i think.
perhaps. i am embarrassed to degrade myself.
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I say you should reach out to the people around you and tell them about your fears. It sounds like you’re doing well and that’s wonderful! The people around you who gave you more attention when they thought you needed more see that you’re doing better so they’re giving you your space and respecting you enough to trust you, that’s wonderful too!
But if you just need to know that they still care, then check in with them. I think you’ll find that they care every bit as much, but there’s no need to coddle you when you’re doing well.
Celebrate how you’re doing better now.
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although you may be right about i am doing a little better. but i am doing worse in certain areas in my life like academic because i feel hopeless, you can sense by my writing.
Then, reach out to those who were there for you before. Reach out and get the support you need. People don’t always know when they’re needed, so let them know. I’m sorry you’re struggling
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for reaching out don’t you think time has changed? it’s not 2009 anymore it’s 2019! it has probably gotten worse not better.
Hey @Abu_man, @Hedgehog makes great points.
If your family is like mine they have busy lives and they may not be intentionally snubbing you, they may think that they helped you enough and that now you can move on with your life. They may not realize that you still need their help and support. Or they may not realize the extent that you need their help. They can’t read your mind and they don’t know everything about your situation.
To them, they may think you’re doing OK now and that you don’t need them anymore. Like I said, my sisters help me but they have their own lives and problems. But about 90% of the time if I reach out and ask for help they will do what they can. They care for me and want the best for me but they can’t be there for me 24/7.
Like hedgehog said, your family cares for you they just aren’t aware of the ways you are struggling. Talk to them! Tell them your fears, maybe set up a regular time to meet once or twice a week, for dinner maybe and you can kill two birds with one stone and socialize but also get some support and help. Or at the least give them phone calls to talk.
I have dinner with my sisters once a week to socialize mainly but we also talk about my life and things going on. And they talk about their problems at work too (because everybody has problems).
And don’t forget, you have to do things to help yourself too. If people see you trying and putting out the effort to help yourself they are going to be more sympathetic towards helping you. That includes your family or psychiatrist or case worker or anyone else.
Hey, I can relate to liking therapists who are attractive, lol. I’ve had some beauties. But you can’t give up on therapy, maybe talking to a male is more productive for you. Yeah, I’ve had some therapists who were beauties grrr. Lord, they were fine, lol.
Like people say, you have to reach out. There’s a whole profession out there who’s job is to help you. So take advantage of it and use those resources. Good luck. Fight the good fight; you can do it.
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Most people who don’t give a heck about you would likely try to save your life. Otherwise they would hang out with people who would help them or they are related too. I’m sorry you are lonely and feel that no one cares but just as most people who you may have hallucinated talking to have long moved on, the majority of people really are as indifferent as everyone trying to help you said they were when they were trying to put less importance in your voices. Reaching the point where you realize you are actually alone, you are no longer suicidal, and most people are indifferent to you is actually progress for most schizophrenics. It’s not altogether a bad thing.
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What is your paranoia like @Abu_man? People generally don’t disrespect you unless you do things wrong. You say you eat healthily and exercise, that is a good start. As long as you are living properly and not treating other people badly you are normally ok. Unless you have treated them badly.
i think that others are trying to control me and i am a victim of abuse.
It could be people paranoia. Just continue to take your meds and talk to medical professionals about it.
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