I have a friend staying here who recently started drinking again. I know I’m the only one who will take him in. I can’t leave him sleep in his truck. But he really does disrupt my life.
And the neighbours dad putting expectations on me to watch out for his daughter.
I know I appear normal a lot of the time but in my head I’m freaking out. I just want peace so bad
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It’s hard to set boundaries between helping other people who need help and taking care of yourself. My brother in law with sza has alot of needs, and I can’t help him very much.
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You can and probably should. Sorry, but he’s not going to stop drinking unless he hits bottom. Hard to watch, but kinder in the long run.
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You need to look after you first. If you feel overwhelmed but other people’s expectations then it is probably time to set a few boundaries and that starts by saying “no” more often. Hard as hell to do but it has to be done or people will just keep putting these expectations on you and that will compromise you own health.
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I agree with @Sezbot241 and @shutterbug Your mental health comes first, and if they are choosing to disrespect your generosity, let the intruder sleep in his truck. You have enough on your plate. Attend an al-anon meeting if you need to. They can have some great ideas and support for you 
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As for your friend, you have to see what is in your heart regarding him. He probably could stay at a local shelter, but the other patrons often take advantage of older people there, if this guy is elderly. This one guy with an artificial leg told me that someone stole his artificial leg while he was in a shelter. Maybe you could talk to some church about giving him shelter. Your friend’s drinking is a real wild card. It’s really hard to deal with the antics of alcoholics.
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I agree with the others about you setting boundaries with this guy. I know it’s hard to do, but you have to take care of yourself also. Like @shutterbug said, he needs to hit bottom before he’s gonna get any help. Please consider this and don’t put yourself in a bad place mentally. Take care of you.
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There are also kids in the mix – they don’t need this guy in their life.
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Thank you al for your good advice. I will talk with him
won’t put up with people who drink to much, I won’t let them stay here for sure, I enjoy my life to much without drinking and I can’t afford to have a drunk bring me down, been there done that
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