My best friend is dating a bonafide bounty hunter.
Yesterday, he asked me if my full name was …(my first name I go by irl is a nickname, I have a long name in real life). Nobody knows my full name except professors and people who I email from my old University email.
Then, he asked me what my number was so I told him. My friend got mad and told him to stop getting my info, but I was standing there like HOW DID YOU KNOW?
I asked him several times how he knew my full name but he expertly dodged answering.
I asked my friend today and she said all he did was google it, but I doubt it because I kept my full name off the internet. She said, oh a lot of people with your name came up (then how was he able to find the real me?). I list myself on facebook as (nickname + last name which is common) and my friend had no idea I had a longer first name than what I told her–until her boyfriend asked me point blank if my name was X.
I’m paranoid that he looked me up through police friends or something (had a run in with 2 officers that were not good, one gave me a cannabis DUI, the other had to let me go after he detained me for several hours).
Now, I’m all nervous about talking to him. I keep wondering if he’ll somehow find this account, or something else I don’t want him to know. Then, I think that he talked to the police officer and he was like oh yea I know her. Or that he checked some police database.
ugh, bounty hunters man, i swear
Oh geez. It looks like you’ll have to put up with it for a while then. But if he’s a creepy guy as far as you’re concerned, then let your friend know that you’d prefer not to be around him. That includes him coming to your apartment. Make him her problem, not yours.
That’s a good idea! I’ll only invite her over during his work hours! Otherwise, he might come over uninvited (last night, that’s basically what he did). This way, he can’t come over because he’ll be busy catching criminals!
Oh wait, he wants me to tutor him in writing for his position and he wants to be a full police officer! He offered to pay me. PAY ME and I’m SO broke. Oh geeze, I’m in a pickle! I totally forgot about the lengthy discussion we had about how I would tutor him…
do you think so?? He’s like ten years younger than I am. Can’t be a romantic thing…maybe he’s trying to keep tabs on my friend through me?
My friend might have bad taste in men…
I’ll just hang out with her during the day, like you said.
Wow, he did that right in front of my friend! That’s pretty sleazy, if he’s doing that.
Maybe you’re right, maybe he’s not tracking me for police purposes, just wanting an extra lay.
I can deal with the sleazy side of him better than the police side of him, though, so hopefully it’s just a sleazy thing…that might even be a way to get my friend to dump him!!!
A bounty hunter has pretty much all access to all records available, it’s just the nature of the game, but a good bounty hunter would be more discreet in telling things that make others uncomfortable.
It’s not what he knows, but what he tells that shows he’s pretty immature.
Set strong boundaries around him and stick to them.
If he can’t abide by this, he has no business in being around vulnerable people in a position of authority over them.
bounty hunters aren’t really cops. It’s not exactly a job that requires a lot of training or discipline.
Anyone can become a bounty hunter. It’s dangerous and it pays relatively well. But it’s not an honorable job. Hes probably an ex criminal himself. It takes one to know one.
I wouldn’t worry. If he worked for the CIA or something then he might not associate with you because of your past history. But I can guarantee that they wouldn’t look you up or run your record.
He’s probably just trying to impress you. It’s good for him to be in your good graces incase him and your friend get into a fight. I would keep your distance.
Also it costs money to look into someone’s background and you can’t do it unless you have a reason. Cops can get into trouble for doing it unless it’s absolutely necessary. A bounty hunter is like a bail bondsman. They work with criminals and low life’s. there is nothing mysterious about them. They are usually bottom feeders and losers themselves.
You’re not a criminal you have an illness.
