Everyone will agree that this is the most supportive, friendly, and cool community and we all want to keep such rare thing in online world…
Unfortunately, few of a female posters here were harassed and bothered just enough times to decide that those persons should be called out. ( after nothing else could assure them that disrespecting girl’s right to keep her privacy is unacceptable and very disturbing.)
Also, those particular posters un/intentionally promote misogynistic and sexist views.
So far, we think that posters catfish and nothernsky should at least be warned. @shutterbug
We agreed on talking about this with the entire community, it’s a matter that everyone should have an opinion on and not discard it like it’s meaningless.
I’ve been harassed by catfish aka petester a lot of times and today he started harassing Anna10, he has been warned but keeps doing it. Others have been harassed by northensky aka danddolo multiple times, with him being banned multiple times because of it.
@SzAdmin, I think these members should be banned permanently. They don’t give anything of worth to the site and keep harassing other members.
But, back on topic. We don’t want to feel patronized, objectified, sexualized against our will nor we will tolerate misogyny in any form here. Because this was and should be the safe place for us all.
While I understand that people are in stressful situations IRL, in my opinion that does not excuse the hostile behavior I’ve seen from certain members here. There is a lot of thinly veiled misogyny from a couple of posters. Talking about someone in a negative and disrespectful way while emphasizing their gender with negatively charged words like “chicks”, “vagina”, “bitch” and so on is not acceptable.
That has absolutely nothing to do with a situation we’re discussing. You harassed me, and I’ve had enough of it. Your discourse and input makes it look like it’s innocent but it’s not. That’s called manipulation. No one falls for it. Get out of this thread and let the admins deal with your situation, you’re clearly not helping your case.
As a female i can say we have enough creeps to deal with offline.
Could guys at least cut us a break in a forum for severe mental illness?
Nothing you can say will take back the fact that you made @Minnii uncomfortable.
No sense in trying to talk your way out of it.
You have an option ‘mute posts of this user’ at preferences tab…but that doesn’t completely solve the problem.
It is about principles.
Edit:
Now I see, it is only about hiding notifications.
Yeah I know, but like Rhubot and claire and I think waterway also got messages from danddolo asking for their pics. I didn’t get messages just posts on here saying all kinds of different stuff. A blocking feature would prevent messages and replies. The rest can be flagged. It would save a lot of trouble for the admins.
Why don’t you flag him. I’m not saying there’s not an issue , with at least one of those posters , there are problems , the other don’t know anything about. The site though is evolving into a general chat site , whether that’s good or bad , not for me to say , but because of that the site is more likely to attract that kind of attention.
Nobody should be harassed. Fights break out and there’s often bad blood between members but outright harassment shouldn’t be tolerated. Sexual harassment is even more repugnant.
Unfortunately, this software doesn’t have many options for members dealing with this situation.