Ok, so anyway I’ve had yet another nightmare last night.
And i’ve been thinking about my biggest problem with the world. I could take this issue to any disabled person’s self help group or forum and I think it’s the same no matter where you go.
ok so I think the biggest problem with being a disabled man in the world is that we are not respected at all by women. Especially if we are unemployed. Ok, I’m not gonna get mad here. But even if we have a job that pay $8.00 an hour we are automatically respected by women more than if we have no job and are on public wellfafre. OK that makes absoultly no sense.
another issue is that Even though I’m getting better I still can’t even get it up if I wanted to because now that we’re all getting older the only thing that’s on the table is some chick that is now old and ugly and she can’t get anyone else anymore and now she’s upset that she’s not pretty anymore and you just get stuck with the leftovers. Then they show me pictures of what they used to look like and then I wanna just leave because I’m like oh great… where were you in my life when you looked like that? Now you look like this and now you’re dating me? great.
This just makes me so sick and forlorn. I don’t tihnk I’m gonna be dating anyone for a long while. measured in years unfortunaly… I just can’t even do it anymore. I think this is such a big issue in a lot of people’s life that we’re not respected by women really so long as we’re disabled… and I’m sure once you’ve been disabled for an extended period of time you just can’t even look at women the same way ever again.
And what componds the issue here is that I think this is a stupid problem to have. You know? life could be so good and so simple. But unfortunaly this is actually a huge problem. I have no idea how to coexist anymore with the opposite sex.
Women change, as men change, but it doesn’t have to mean a decrease in attractiveness, especially when two people find their inner dialogue with each other matches the reality of life.
Perhaps you are looking for perfection because you assume that is what women are looking for, but if you want more understanding from the opposite sex, you need to start with you. And I don’t know what it is right now about the boards, but these wild generalizations and assumptions about men and women are very much a standard form of judgment without a solid argument to back them.
This is waht I’m talkin about here. Can you perhaps re-read my post and actually give me a response that is more considerate? All I’m seeing is a bunch of bitter people that wanna bash me for no reason. ok, I really feel this way.
and you’re actually supporting my “argument” here. but it’s not an arguemnt it’s an actualy problem that I have and I’m trying to fix. What is this the debate club? I’m actually serious about my emotions.
Man … this forum is so useless… blind leading the blind and the wounded shooting the wounded.
Yeah, and I’m telling you to respect women, it goes both ways. This is as considerate as I can get when you say you are mostly superficial and not wanting anything that might be good for you because it doesn’t “appear” to be enchanting. If you’re looking for fairy tales, I’m the first to tell you, that we are not only not cut out for it, we miss so much more by thinking everything looks better through those rosy glasses.
Why is it OK to think about women this way and choose only the pretty ones when it is not OK for women to think about men as providers and choose only those with jobs?
I get that life sucks sometimes. But you’re not being fair.
Here’s the problems that I’m actually having. See that’s not really what I’m hung up on. As can be derived from my OP, I’ve dated all kinds of women. Certainly not just the pretty one- in fact that’s actually pretty rare for me.
The problems that I’m having is that the double standard here is not of equal measure at all— not even close because an ugly women will treat and unemployed disabled man the same way as a pretty one. Thus, I may as well just shoot for the stars ha.
I’ve actually been ripped apart by plenty of ugly women and I find myself asking myself why. ----- and this is the problem compounded to me is that the double standard is not really a double standard— it’s like 1:2 = 1:4
I find when I’m in relationships like that I always end up miserable-- because there’s no respect for me even if I lick that ■■■■.
Most women probably want equality, so if they think you aren’t making enough money to get by, why would they think that you could treat them well, but maybe that is a preconceived notion too, because even the down and out can find love, yes, women might turn you off, but often it’s the men who say so that need adjustment, in my opinion.
False. If you’re not respected it’s probably because you don’t respect women and has little to do with the fact that you’re a man or disabled.
So does she? Why is this a bad thing? And why do you think any woman that is “left” is old and ugly? And why does that even matter? You’re being really vain.
She’s probably thinking the same thing.
This is probably more your actual problem.
Broad and devaluing generalizations aren’t going to get you anywhere. And this kind of disrespect is probably at least partially your problem.
You don’t seem to respect women, so why should they respect you? Double standard is right, but you might look in that mirror again.
Because you’re making sweeping statements about how much women in general suck. It’s not cool. Hopefully the above elaborates well enough why.
I’m really hoping you don’t take this as an attack, but I just want you to think about two things you said:
Women don’t think men are valuable if they aren’t working
You don’t think women are valuable if they aren’t physically attractive
What do you want women to see beyond your earning potential? Are you willing to look beyond superficial physical beauty to see those same things in women?
The celibate life is the way to be bro! Just imagine the day when we are finally loosed from the shackles of the old body - the one built to make procreation seem like “fun” and built around protecting newborns, families, and the rest.
I can hardly wait for a world without children, the world where procreation doesn’t happen. My God what a good time that’d be. I could actually focus on relationships and take pride in the fact that I didn’t bother “multiplying” the population of Earth.
Until then, it’s a fight, but a damn good one at that (staying sane & celibate)!
I don’t have problems with children, I am just resisting the urge to have children of my own. I don’t want to be involved with procreation, and to be frank I don’t think this was the best model for procreation anyways. I think there could have been better methods, but that’s between God and me.
I guess I just am thinking & feeling that there will one day be a world without children because we’ve all become adults (and procreation is done with). I’d like to see that day.
Yeah ■■■■ that ■■■■. Dude my grandparents just told me that I was demonicly possessed today. And told my mom to kick me out (again). And she listens to that ■■■■.
Thatt’s as far as I got…I’ll re-read the rest now.