Im not saying there is? Im saying i tend to ignore red flags
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you sound vulnerable?
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If you mean codependent, then bingo lol
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I feel like I need to keep clarifying because I know Iâm taking a unpopular position.
It reminds of this documentary I saw about " THe iceman". Richard Kuklinski, I think was his name. He was a serial murderer and hitman responsible for over 200 murders. I still remember him breaking down in the interview I saw and crying when he was talking about his family, despite the fact that he was a cold blooded killer.
These are the contradictions in life. Absolutely horrible people who still care about some.
Does this slight hint of humanity make him a good person? No, it doesnt. But the fact is, it does exist.
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Nah bro i gotchu. I agree. I actually am trying to do away with seeing people as good or bad people, because âgoodâ people still do bad things and âbadâ people still do good things. It still can be a mind â â â â sometimes. But its been a huge help for my OCD. Ill go ahead and shared after my ex was arrested i developed pedophilia OCD (because if i was with a pedophile what does that make me??) And i saw all my thoughts as me being a bad person, but letting go of the distinction has helped more than i imsgined it would. And yes it IS OCD, and im over that particular obsession at this point.
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This is true. THere are very few people who have not done something bad in their lives. I personally am not willing to go completely away from there being good and bad people. There are good and bad people IMO, but there are also a lot of people in the middle. and As your said, good people can do bad things and bad people can do good things. I think thats exactly right.
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âEvery saint has a past, every sinner has a futureâ
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âThe line between good and evil runs through every human heartâ. Your groomer is in gaol now by the sound of it, where he wonât hurt any one else. Hopefully he learns his lesson and changes.
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I was in a very similar position. My oldestâs father was 26 and I was 16. I didnât know until the end, about 7 years later, that he had done nothong but cheat. He was also mentally and physically abusive when drunk. He is why I have such an aversion to beer drinking alcoholics. They all seem to act the same.
But, there were good things scattered through. Those were what kept me there, along with my daughter. Sheâs the only thing I donât regret from that relationship.
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Gross dude. Dont know why you felt the need to comment that here when im talking about trauma from an older man.
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