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Not everyone can like you

It may sound kind of immature, but to some extent I’m still dealing with this one. A person can be nice enough and still be not be liked by certain people. And I must admit I don’t like everyone either. Been really stressed lately so I’m feeling cranky and overly sensitive. I’ve recently learned that no matter how close we may get to anyone else, we are finitely alone. Thoughts?

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Well we cant please everyone, and someone is bound to dislike us. I don’t sweat much over it, usually what we don’t like about others is something we dislike about ourselves.

And yes, I agree we are finitely alone.

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I still can’t get over it. Still gives me some really hard times.

I thought about tagging you for this post :smile_cat: it is awful to feel like every person’s opinion about you is more valid than your own, and that the people who dislike you have the most valid opinions of all. I struggled with it constantly for years and still backslide sometimes when I’m caught off-guard by someone’s dislike.

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We want everybody to like us we are people pleasers. It’s not considered a desirable trait by some but I think it’s good. Everyone should like me but they don’t. I’ve done work accepting this.

I ran all my friends off when being psychotic and my first love (always the most precious) hasn’t spoken to nor seen me in 7 years. It used to upset me so much that I’ve become so alone and caused people to dislike me, but time has healed that wound. Now all I say is f**k 'em. I know I’m a good person and didnt deserve to be abandoned. That’s their problem, not mine.
We are not alone unless we choose to be.

“When no one is around love will always love you”

  • Chan Marshall (cat power)
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There are plenty of people out there that will love and value you for who you are. I believe in compassion and forgiveness; but we can’t please everybody, and some people you can never please. For some people in our lives I think it’s best to love them from a distance, and sometimes its best to just walk away and not look back.

If Jesus came across this problem, I figure why should I expect to be exempt.

“But Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own country, among his own relatives, and in his own house.” Now He could do no mighty work there, except that He laid His hands on a few sick people and healed them. And He marveled because of their unbelief. Then He went about the villages in a circuit, teaching.” - Matthew 6:4-6

I agree with a quote from Maya Angelou when she said, “Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”

“And whoever will not receive you nor hear your words, when you depart from that house or city, shake off the dust from your feet.” - Matthew 10:14

I think ‘when you stand for everything, you stand for nothing’…

Great ideas often face violent opposition from mediocre minds. You can’t please everybody.

Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. The way the chips fall will usually give you a good idea on what you might need to change in order to get along better with individuals and in society in general.

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“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” - Winston Churchill

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I even have some conflicts of interests within myself, so If someone seems to like me , that’s just fine, but I would be suspicious of what it is or why they would like me. It’s like if I were to win the lottery and that a lot of people who know I did, would start getting friendly all of a sudden like.

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People are too judgmental to begin with. For some reason certain people don’t see the value of being virtuous & kind to each other - to those, I try my hardest to ignore.

Sorry, that scripture was from the book of Mark 6:4-6.

There was some psychologist that challenged the idea that a person has to be liked by everyone. Most of the time if there is a person who I have nothing in common with I just avoid them. I don’t like them or dislike them. I do feel a dislike for very judgemental people, but I don’t worry about it too much if they’re doing no harm.

in reality of the 7 billion + humans on this earth… :earth_americas:
you would probably only get on ’ well ’ with 3500 of them. :man: :woman:
seeing that no one can be friends with that quantity…of humans.
a realistic assessment would be that one human :man: could theoretically ’ be good friends ’ with only 3 and a half people.
take care :alien:

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If I could get 4 people 4 freaking people to be a tight group I’ll live happily. What sucks is I had that but then the illness struck and that went out the door.

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A few ppl might love me
A few other ppl might hate me
But most ppl neither like nor dislike me
I think this applies to most ppl

I don’t mind being not liked but not disliked either but I feel bothered if someone hates me and do something annoying to me
But if they do nothing, then it’s perfectly ok
They keep distance and I keep distance and that’s all

I think that way too, but I’m ok with it.
That is why we communicate to each other, which makes life more interesting.