like i dont feel much really, its really hard to have and maintain an erection but before that can happen you really need to have the feelings and urges that send the messages to the brain that allow that to happen,
i spend a lot of time with some female friends and they know whats up and i just wish i could get those feelings back that i had when i was in school, i dont care if its painful if i had to try and hide it, just want to feel some thing,
porn doesnt even work anymore, i see those things like i would look at an object but not with desire, its like i have no desires, i’m not wanting or yearning for it, like my natural ability to procreate has been blunted.
Unfortunately my Geodon has me feeling like a 21 year old weight lifter. Which I am.
It sucks. I hate masturbating and I used to have tons of casual sex instead. That was frustrating to a degree because people would just have sex with me and then not want anything else from me. I was really ripped at the time. I then entered a relationship with a young woman with severe OCD. She was out of shape and I got out of shape too, I mean I kept lifting but my diet was crap (no one to impress) and I was smoking constantly with her.
Lesson learned: don’t eat any cholesterol because they contain steroids, estrogen and testosterone, which make me do things like watch a porno or ■■■■people I hardly know.
Seriously unless you need the sex to feel good (fight depression) or as part of a relationship, be careful what you wish for.
I’m saying that to myself speeding down Union Ave when I was 20 (I’ll be 22 this week) just to go get laid. “Be careful what you wish for.”
Seriously libido is a curse. I hate it. I mean yeah it’s sometimes pleasurable but at the price it comes it is not worth it (loss of reason, risky behaviors, addiction, ect.)
I was scared shitless of having HIV when I heard that unprotected oral sex can spread HIV. Luckily I tested negative. After putting my you know what in eight people’s mouths. See it also makes me sound like an idiot, that’s retarded behavior.
That’s the past…
I hate my libido, I really do. It is good for nothing. I want to stay healthy (physically) and as sane as possible and get a PhD in clinical psychology, that’s what I want to do with my life…not ■■■■everyone remotely attractive. Oh and I’m actually on track to get accepted into a PhD program I’m not delusional about that.
I lost my sex drive months ago, before meds, before diagnosis. The thought of sex does nothing for me. Trying to be intimate with people does nothing for me, though I do enjoy knowing I’m making the other person feel good. Masturbation is pointless and, past a certain point, just annoying because it’s too much stimulation with no possible goal in sight.
I wouldn’t feel bad about this, except I’m in a committed relationship and I feel like I’m letting my partner down. We still have sex, I’m just not nearly as involved as I was a year ago. It’s more like my body is there and being used but I’m not present at all.
I have an interesting quandary in this department. I can only reach orgasm once every 48-72 hours. It’s kinda weird. I know it’s the Elavil doing it to me, but like my wife says, “Better to be able to have sex less often than be suicidally depressed.”
Sorry to hear of your troubles…scientists say that as males reach mature years our sexual desires naturally decrease if you’re a man of mature years. That wouldn’t be a slight on one’s manhood but just something that naturally happens…nothing to feel bad about.
If you’re not of mature years maybe you’ve just subconsciously lost interest?
That wouldn’t be anything to feel bad about either I say
I’ve been on antipsychotics off and on since 2010. My sex drive has suffered for it. My partner has an over active libido so most of the time is spent pleasuring her.
The men in our family have a high sex drive and it can really drive you crazy. Especially volunteering at the hospital can be torture for a single man like me, with all the pretty women walking by and you’re sitting at the desk when there’s nothing to do at times. Sometimes it’s a good day when you don’t see as many. I’ve always assumed that I’m supposed to “keep a professional distance”, and that means not asking anyone out on a date. It’s been really tempting to a couple of times.
Erectile dysfunction has been discussed and researched by some professionals like Zimbardo who made a ted talk about it.
Also check out what masturbation to porn to orgasm can do to you if done regularly. Porn induced erectile dysfunction. This site is a goldmine of scientific information on the matter. http://yourbrainonporn.com/erectile-dysfunction-question
And anther ted talk, ideas worth spreading.
The desire for sexual pleasure, libido, goes down after not feeding it for a while. Masturbation can make you uncomfortable, -social anxiety-, around women. Lesson learned: If I want to be intimate with a women then I should stop masturbating to porn and masterbate less frequently.
Can women pipe in on this? I’ve never had a sex drive…33 still a virgin and yes sometimes it’s been irksome as I age but it’s still very low and I think I’d rather keep not knowing what I’m missing than going looking for it and getting frustrated I can’t find satisfaction. I don’t know if it’s the medication, or the illness, or both maybe. It’s not like I’m holding out for religious reasons, it just hasn’t happened yet…I figured it will when it’s meant too…or it wont. who knows? Though the thought of dying a virgin (at my age or if I get any older) is somewhat depressing.
Erectile Dysfunction is a curse in every man’s life. ED can be easily treated with help of generic drugs like Generic Levitra, Kamagra etc and many other drugs.