So, my mother and I had a conflict.
In the end I told her “watch who you’re having sex with”((I know it was rude but it was worth saying it)) (because it’s been said for a long time (from many different people) that my father is a different person)
She got lost, her voice began to crack and she turned the whole speech around “you don’t make it up” (because that’s how she manipulates my illness)
my father is definitely a different person than the one who raised me…
It’s still a bit shocking news to me, but now I know for sure. My mother knows how to lie, but this time shee was waaay to “surprised” to lie.
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I hope you don’t resent the man who helped raise you. Even if he’s not your biological father.
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I do not. Though the man who raised me abused me both physically both mentally.
Long story short - I care about him, but he was not the best father to me. @Andrey
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Difficult relationship
I personally go minimum contact with anyone including family who make my situation worst.
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It’s very, very difficult one. I don’t want to go into details here, but they simply use too much alcohol.
I also don’t want to write into a very detailed way, because it takes time for me to think in English, and write in English.
Overall, I am still looking for choices how to leave this family. (sometimes it hurts to know I will let go them, but I know I need to do this oneday)
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I am sorry that happened to you. None of it is your fault.
Science hasn’t established a clear causality between bad parenting and getting schizophrenia later in life.
If you manage to forgive your parents, you’ll be a better person. Keeping grudges, even reasonable ones, is a form of self-harm.
My 2 cents.
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It’s ok. When police interrupted physical abuse, it stopped. Though I am still coping with their mental abuse. Which is horrible, but the more time goes the more I realize their words has zero truth. Beginning with the fact, they even lie about my real father. (though one serious problem is, my step-father still beats my mom. Most of the times when I have no possibility to interrupt them)
I’ll keep that in mind.
You shouldn’t put up with abuse. Ever.
If you find a solution to live by yourself, or with more friendly folks, don’t hesitate.
After you become independent, you’ll be able to forgive and move on.
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I guess it’s hard to solve this problem. Glad you can at least vent.
But care for yourself first I have no clue the complicated financial and emotional dynamics of any other family.
But maybe walk away when the abuse starts have somewhere to go. People or therapist docs.
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This is exactly what I was thinking no man/woman should abuse anybody I don’t care who it is
Bottom line you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect
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