It’s looking like I will be spending next year alone because my girlfriend says she doesn’t want to be with me while I still talk to my ex wife and asked me to choose. I couldn’t choose, I love both of them and I am only friends with my ex wife but Angie wouldn’t listen. She is supposed to move out by the turn of January.
I am pretty sure I will be o k.
Aw man jukebox, so sorry to hear this.
I’ll never understand why people don’t allow others to acknowledge their past?
Insecure? I dunno?
People have a life before they meet someone, and you can’t expect them to just forget about everyone before. Plus, it says something when you remain friendly with an ex, something the current should appreciate.
Nothing worse than leaving a trail of enemies.
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I’ll probably spend New Years alone too.
That sucks but she isn’t being totally unreasonable. Weren’t you about to leave her for your ex not long ago? I can see how she’d want you to stop contacting the woman you almost left her for.
I think you need to decide which one you really want to be with and stop sitting on the fence.
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I appreciate your point of view Malvok. but the situation is that Nancy and I are only friends and know now we can’t be together, but we care for eachother so we talk on the phone once a week or so, harmless. I would think maybe you think I am sitting on a fence but that’s not the way it is. I promised Nancy when we broke up that we would always be friends and so I am only keeping my promise. The point that I should probably pre inform the woman I see in the future that I am friends, close friends, with my ex.
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I’m either spending it with one friend or somewhere on my own. I’m staying away from my house cuz I don’t want to drink or be around the party at my place. ( roommate party’s a lot)
If Nancy asked you back tonight, would you go? If the answer is anything but a resounding “no” then Angie is right to be uncomfortable with you talking to Nancy.
Still, it sucks. I know you’ll get through it though.
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it is a resounding “no” that I wouldn’t get back with Nancy, and Angie is not having it. she just informed me she will be gone before the New Year. I guess I am just meant to be alone?
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No, you’re not. You’re just like everyone else. I know at times like this it seems as if we’re cursed, but it’s not the case. You’ll find someone else and live a happy life. This is just a bump in the road.
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I had a friend request on Facebook this evening from an old girlfriend, oddly enough. She had four school-aged children when we dated sixteen years back, so it was a bit strange to check her profile and see that they had all graduated and they are all adults now. Also left me feeling a bit old and creaky. 
I mentioned it to my wife and she was immediately all like, “you didn’t accept the friend request, did you?” I hadn’t, but I get the impression I would have been in deep doo doo had I done so. My wife – like most females I’ve known in the past – can be quite territorial. I understand your desire to remain friends with Nancy, but I don’t think it bodes well for future dating unless you find a VERY understanding partner.
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yeah, pixel. I think you’re right. I guess I have no business dating when I still talk to my ex all the time, although we are only friends.
Sorry, didn’t mean to imply that. Just that you had better make sure whoever you date next knows ahead of time what the score is. Dump the skeletons out of the closet at the outset of the relationship. I am sure there are women out there who will be understanding, but this is an area where you’re certainly going to need some pre-authorization.
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One girl I briefly dated told me one day she went for dinner with her ex and I was like . ‘Yeah no.’ Then she tells me she introduces all her exes to each other. And I told her if she introduces one to me they will be introduced to a punch in the face lol.
Needless to say she made a massive deal out of it crying her eyes out and I wasn’t having it. It all went downhill after that lol. I hate dramatic manipulative women with a passion haha
Hmmmm this is an interesting situation which we all encounter at least once in our life. There is someone who loves you and you don’t love the person…But also there is someone whom you love but the person cannot feel the same for you.
Your situation is a little different but in my life I’ve encounter a situation which was similar to what I’ve described earlier 
Maybe you and your ex want to keep in touch with each other but your girl friend is feeling insecure. She is right to a certain extent…I mean, if we are new in some relationship, we always have a fear of getting cheated. She might know that you won’t leave her for anyone else but she is just feeling helpless in front of her concerns.
Agree with Malvok mostly…
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Hi jukebox. your situation sounds eerily familiar. Didn’t Nancy start communicating with her ex when you were married until the relationship with her ex escalated and she left you? Can you see the similarities here with this current girlfriend? Doesn’t she have the right to be a little wary of your relationship with Nancy? Can’t you understand her point of view? Bottom line: if Nancy would take you back, wouldn’t you do it? And if you answer this with a YES, than it should answer the question of why your current girlfriend is worried about your relationship with Nancy and wants to leave you. I’ve never been married or had a girlfriend for more than 4 months but I can understand Angie’s point. I don’t know if you would ever get back with Nancy. I just don’t know but I’m hypothesizing that you MIGHT.
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