With another little girl and Im freaking out just a little bit. She’s eight and we have her for half the summer.
My daughter is five and about to go into school and I know she is going to want to have sleepovers. I dont know what to do.
If it’s gonna overwhelm you don’t do it! You would be responsible for another little girl that you don’t know and she’ll have her own personality and likes and dislikes. What if she gets scared? What if she doesn’t listen to you? Are you up for all of that?
I dont know it might. But I want to be a normal mom and not stop my kids from socializing. Im starting to feel like I can handle things. My five year old doesnt have any friends and I feel like thats my fault. But yeah everything you bring up scares me a little. I wont get any help from my husband on this it would be all me. Maybe I can do it … I get the feeling I should at least try.
Do you know the little girl?
What’s there to do?
Make sure they know to stay inside the house, set up a few movies for them to watch, occasionally throw a few snacks in their direction (note any food allergies beforehand), and be prepared to hear them giggle all night long.
Not sure why the call them a “SleepOver” since no one ever seems to sleep.
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We weren’t allowed to have sleep-overs. It was too much for my mom. But I went to a few… My son never had anyone sleep over because we lived with my folks.
It’s not a necessity of childhood and it won’t damage your child if you’re not comfortable hosting.
Having said that, if you feel strongly that you should try, then I think you could do it. Make a plan and play it out in your head s few times. If you think you can do it, then I bet you can. Good luck 
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Ive never met her before and in fact my stepdaughter just met her today at the carnival we went to. She seems like a very nice girl and her father seems very nice. I put off her coming to my house this time by saying my stepdaughter could go to her house tomorrow for a sleepover. But I’m nervous about that because I dont know them. But maybe Im just being paranoid.
Thanks, that helps me feel better!
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Wait, are you having the sleepover at your house, or is your stepdaughter going to someone else’s house?
This time she is going to the other girls house, but she still wants to have the other girl over at our house. Ive never done a sleepover before, either way.
Oh, you just met these people? Are you really sending your daughter to their house to spend the night?
I would never do that…
If your daughter just met them, a sleep-over at either house is totally unnecessary. If you don’t know them…you just met the dad? I don’t know why you would send your daughter overnight…
The girls can spend a few afternoons together. IMO
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There are alarms going off in my head. I have to say this: instead of you second-guessing yourself and feeling pressured to be “normal”, listen to yourself and really ask why you’re freaking out. Maybe you’re uncomfortable because the situation isn’t right…
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you be fine… they will pretty much entertain themselves… just order a pizza and let them play, my little one is 3 but he has a little girl who is 8 and her brother who is 14 stay over sometimes…
I just saw you just met them and they want to go over there first… like @Hedgehog said maybe a couple afternoon play dates should happen first… but its totally up to your judgement…
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You could be so right. I was telling myself Im just being paranoid because I am paranoid. Now my only way to fix it (without insulting probably perfectly nice people) since I already agreed to do the sleepover is to tell my stepdaughter she can have the sleepover here like she wanted. Now I really am stuck
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I have trouble letting my little one stay with his grandparents so he has only stayed somewhere else twice lol so don’t feel too bad about it… 8 year olds pretty much keep themselves busy… just feed em lol…
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You could also take her over to the other house with the agreement that you will stay until you feel comfortable enough for her to stay the night, or if not, she comes home with you and they can wait until they get to know each other a little better.
Maybe the other girl can stay with you the “next time,” that way you can see a little more what this child is like, and Keep in mind, “the apple don’t fall far from the tree.”
I’m wondering if the other parents aren’t a slight bit apprehensive as well, and wonder if they jumped in to this a little to soon?
If they understand your concern, they will probably be okay themselves, but if they think you’re over-reacting, I’d run soooo fast and far from them and not EVER look back.
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I would definitely have it at your house. I hate feeling stuck like that (I have a get-together with my husband’s family today that I’m dreading).
On the other hand, when I was raising my son I was way more social than I would normally have been. We do things for our kids and it’s great because we find out what we’re capable of.
I hope everything works out. It’s ok to change your mind and do whatever you believe to be the right thing. You don’t owe other people anything. 
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So I’m having the sleepover right now at my house. Theyre downstairs watching Smurfs The Lost Village. I seem to be handling it okay. I have five kids in my house right now geez lol
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My daughter is almost sixteen now. I used to freak out at the thought of her friends sleeping over. Turned out to be not a big deal. They’ll hide in their own area, and the only time they want to see an adult is if food is being brought in and dirty dishes removed (kids are big on room service). And they don’t seem to sleep, at all.
I’ve survived many sleepovers – it’s all good!
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