My mom threatens to cut off with me

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I wish my mom loves me more. I lost her love when i fell ill to sz.

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I wish so too. I donā€™t understand how someone can treat their own child that way, but I know nothing about your culture and her personal life. It makes me angry though.

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THis sounds like its causing you a lot of stress. Have you talked to your doctor about your stress of this situation with your mother? Perhaps you can get therapy or medications to help you with the stress. Your mother sounds like she could also benefit from therapy or medications.

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My mom is away for a few days. I think itā€™d be okay. Sheā€™s flying to japan.

I feel unrest in the past few days. I want to understand it and get the hard feelings out of me but it doesnt work. I feel not good.

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I see public doc and their personnel is very unstable. Last time the doctor side with my mother and made me leave my home to live in a half way hostel. I reject the placement i dont want to live in a group home.

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A group home is better than no home.

But Iā€™m saying talk to your doctor about your stress and anxiety about your mother. Try again if you didnā€™t get treated and your problems addressed. Donā€™t give up.

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Our doctors only presribe medicines. Sound like Iā€™ll get some relaxant and sleeping pills.

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Yes - sleep is very important. And some anti-anxiety medications - of which there are many, might be very helpful. But if you can also get to a psychologist that would be very good.

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I think i dont understand them either. I dont like our culture. There is very little love and relaionships are materialistics. I dont know ehy Iā€™m here. I totally donā€™t feel i belong to here.

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Since i often feel unwell emotionally, i tried psychological service last year. The psychologist said in their service, she would see me 4 to 6 times all together in 3 months, every time 45 min and then close file. She handed me a paper to write down all the long term goal and short term goal. I feel it is not going to help me. Everytime i totally forgot what i said and it gives me a hard time to answer all of her questions. I feel that i tried very hard to give her a general picture of my case and thats all. I talk about suicidal ideation. She only suggest me to hospital admission. Iā€™m not quite certain if it help me with anything. The service is difficult to access. I am uncertain if i can benefit from it. I have poor memories.

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Iā€™m really sorry you have to go through this, but maybe try a psychologist again? Talking about the issues with your mother might help you on how to overcome your fears of being alone and maybe find the strenght to find a solution for yourself.

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You might want to write down some of the things you want to talk about. It helps if you canā€™t remember everything . And also whom ever you will be talking to ask them to write down the question that they are asking you so you can respond to what there asking. Sometimes they would talk too fast. And itā€™s hard to answer if you forget the questions.

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That sounds pretty rough. They donā€™t have free group home settings? They do where I live. Itā€™s free to live in certain group homes, but once you finally get on disability or start making income, they expect you to pay a pro-rated fee to live there.

Sounds like China is in dire need of better safety nets for mentally disabled persons.

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Does your mom know how you are feeling?
Maybe she can help you find a place of your own close by?I would not worry yet since it has not happened.
Check the internet for social services in your area. There may be people that can help you with everything-including your own place, but near everything you need.
I am sorry you have to worry over this kind of thing-keep checking around on your own. You will find something!