So my mom everyday comes back from work at lunch time and evening and first thing is thag she starts rambling about her work problems, money problems and gosspins about her co-workers. I have enough issues on my own - paranoid schizophrenia and major depression with OCD. I try to help to ease her life as much as possible, like yesterday I mopped all out flat, sorted home trash and cooked dinner tonight. I also help with her work, like doing some technical troubleshooting on word or resizing picture resolution or adding everything to zip or winrar. I also buy groceries from my disability allowance, which is pennies like 170$ a month. So im saving it by not going to any cafes or restaurants, quit drinking alcohol for 2 years now. I even quit smoking cigarettes and moved to rollies, which is 8$ for 30grams. The deal is my mom acts like a queen when gets her salary and sometimes buys me a gift (not really a neccesity). Yesterday she bought me a double douvet which cost her 40$. I appreciate that, but I would rather save these times. She also overbuys groceries with her salary - goes grocery shopping for 10-15 days in a row until i have to start spending my own cash. Some food we just throw out because of expiry date. She also makes some gigantic portions for me and I feel guilty when I leave food and im already fat. We talked with my mom not to buy anything sugary for me because I was pre-diabetic during my teenage years and I was hospitalized and today she bought for me 2 double snickers, jaffa cakes and sugary fruit juice. At the end of the month my mom asks my sister for money, sometimes 300$ which is half of my moms salary. The deal is when i lived independently alone and was out of money due to rent and food I often asked for 50$ and got lectured and bullied to the point of crying. Thanks for reading my rant, any comments qppreciated.
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These are the downsides of not living on your own. I also have the same issues with my family but I chose to still live with them as I think its better than living alone. I fear getting lonely without my family as my friends work full time and only one regularly contacts me everyday.
Leave the sugary foods in the kitchen and simply don’t eat them. Eventually, she’ll get the idea and stop buying you sweets.
As far as complaining and gossiping, when your mom starts that just say you’re not feeling up to talking and leave the room
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