My husband broke his back in 4 places while working for a company in Texas. They have a law there that you can’t sue your boss so there’s no requirement to offer workman’s comp. he’s screwed.
What’s worse is that his friends all ditched him after his injury. We think it’s because he can’t do all the things he could before. In his dreams, he asks friends to call him and stuff. It makes me so sad.
@Loke It happened several years ago, but his friends of 30+ years are abandoning him and it’s hard to see him suffer like this. He’s in pain all the time, and due to the opioid crisis he’s getting only 20 pain pills per month - that’s less than one per day!
He has nerve damage and sometimes he just drop to the floor when trying to stand. He can’t feel his hands or feet. And he has a lot of nerve pain so he needs pain medicine. His nerves have been damaged very badly. He’s already had several back surgeries that haven’t helped.
Yes. He has a pain specialist dr, but he’s tried so many things and they haven’t relieved his pain. He has a large portion of his spine fused, he has metal holding together his spine too. Sometimes I think the metal is what’s causing the problem. The drs say the metal can’t be removed.
I know this sounds ridiculous but there’s this pill I take that’s very bitter. Before popping it in my mouth I mentally turn my tastebuds off. It works. I literally can’t taste the pill.
I’m so sorry about your husband. That royally stinks, especially since you can’t do anything about it. I will pray for him. I hope the doctors can find some way of easing his pain. Take care of yourself and him.
Thanks @anon78876561. What’s worse than the physical pain is the emotional pain that comes from friends he’s had over 30 years deserting him because he can’t do the same things anymore.
No doubt. When you have no support system, it makes things 20x worse. I wish I could help you out. Maybe you will find some people who will help him out and be there for you two.
Those sound like some sucky friends. A real friend stands by you through thick and thin. That said, is it possible that your husband’s friends don’t know how to help and so they avoid him? I hope you guys get through this, and I really hope that somehow your husband makes new friends or reconciles with his old ones. Also, please take care of yourself as well. If you neglect yourself then you will burn yourself out and it may even lead to resentment. I wish the best for both of you.
Thanks @anon78876561 and @Sardonic. I’m not burning out but I am worried about him. I feel the same about his friends. My husband is a body builder so they liked him going to the bars with them to protect them. He can’t do that anymore. Shitty friends.
@jukebox my husband says he called lots of attorneys in Texas. No one will take his case because it’s illegal to sue your employer in Texas. They decided to only cover pain medicine for him and nothing else. They’re threatening to not do that anymore either. He was injured because they made him do the work of a forklift. They wouldn’t provide him with one because he’s big and strong and could lift 500 pounds. But there was an ice storm and he slipped on ice while throwing a piece of roof into a bin and his spine was crushed from the neck down to his lumbar spine. No one will take the case. He’s screwed.