my ex-girlfriend(we were engaged to be married) contacted me on facebook not to long ago. When we were going out she cheated on me. Granted it was like 15 years ago that this happened. I do partially blame her for me getting sick. It was around the same time that she cheated on me. Anyways, I responded to her message by calling her a ■■■■. I usually dont call names to people but what she did has haunted me for years. Should I feel bad for calling her names? Shouldn’t I have the right to be upset?? She responded to my message but I have not been back out to facebook to see what she had written. I don’t think I want to know what she has to say. Would you read it or would you just forget about it…it cant be anything good after what I called her. Three bad things happened when I was 21 while I was getting sick… I lost my best friend, my girlfriend was cheating on me, and I was a victim of a violent crime. I contribute these three thing to why I got sick. Her being one of the three things that happened is something I am unable to forgive. I really don’t feel bad for calling her a ■■■■ but it’s out of character for me so maybe I should feel bad about what I said. I dont know.
If Your unable to forgive… then closing the book on that part of your life and moving on would most likely be the best thing to do. When stuff like that happens to me… I try not to look back.
For me… I would try very hard not to read it… but in reality, I know my curiosity would get the better of me and I’d read it anyway.
Good luck and I hope the day gets better for you.
Read it bro!
If she takes the aggresive stance in the convo then block her. Hopefully she understands the gravity of what she did and will be more understanding as to why you are upset.
I don’t get why people cheat sometimes. Couldn’t they just break it off and then go out and ram things into themselves? Why not simply break up first?
I also think the fact that you were becoming ill for the rest of your life made it even more damaging, what an awful time to get cheated on in my opinion. coming down with a chronic life long brain disease is not a great time to get cheated on is it?!
Im so so glad i have never had an official girl"friend" or wife. Ugh! Eww! Yuck! Spew!
On a sidenote that would be a great song! That rhymes! Ugh, Eww, Yuck, Spew!
My “wonderful” wife cheated on me, over and over again. We are divorced, and I keep things in the past - what was done is done - I have no hard feelings - I would ignore the past, dont obsess or hold onto anger - it is toxic to do so
Don`t read it…**
I’m curious to know what she responded. You’re natural just spoke you’re mind so don’t feel bad about it. Anyway, if you think her time is over in your life then just keep moving and ignore the message.
don’t read it, leave the memory and the message in the past.
take care 
my opinion is read it…maybe might help you to forgive…if nothing else…you won’t wonder about it for ever…sending you best wishes on your decision
@pansdisease you must write this song “Ugh, Eww, Yuck, Spew!” It’s catchy already.
By the look of your entry here, I have gathered that you are the sort of individual that second guesses himself due to the ability of being not only a considerably nice guy, but simply a human variety that actually has good morals. I am guessing this is such since you have a reasonable right to be upset and even in your possible anger, you still seem to know what is “out of character” for you in name calling the woman that put you in such a place of distraught to begin with.
With that, it may also be relatively fatal to your health - physical and mental - if you read her message. I would suggest not doing so. (But really, you don’t have to listen to me at all. 
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Even when others have wronged me time and time again, I’ve had the opportunity to get the “last laugh” and can’t find it within myself to do so because even when I have taken advantage of the opportunity to blow it back in their face, it still replays over and over in my head the way that they had still won.
Don’t torture yourself…move on