She sat down and spilled her guts about her feelings about her marriage and how she feels she had been abused and raped over the time period. She insists that my son in law is abusive but says the kids are better off with him. She says her sociopath diagnosis is wrong that she is actually manic depressive instead and she doesn’t need medicine for it. She brought her childhood into it too. I felt so overwhelmed listening to her. I felt that all of it was fabrication. I felt she was trying to illicit sympathy in order to get me back on her side so she could start getting money and cigarettes from me again. I feel so guilty thinking the worst of my own child but I have no choice. Everyone has been trying to get me to see her for what she is for years and I’m finally starting to see it. I tried to end the conversation multiple times because I was feeling so overwhelmed, but she only pounded harder. Finally I called my ex over and told him I was in trouble and he swiftly ended the conversation and made her leave for the night. After listening to her for nearly an hour her response was to leave ranting about what a terrible Mother I was because I never listened to her and was never there for her for the last 21 years.
Im sorry leaf…that sounds horrible. Sending you hugs and all the warm and supporting thoughts i can think of. This must be so heartbreaking, and make you feel torn, because she is your child. Please take good care of yourself first. Is there, besides your ex, someone to reach out to in real life?
I have a couple of people who are there for me and I have a therapist. I don’t see my therapist very often but maybe I’ll call and set something up. Thanks for the hugs.
iam sorry leaf ! hope u feel better soon hugs
My oldest sister brought up a bunch of revisionist nonsense against my parents…guilt trip etc…because her life didn’t work out as planned.
I told her that we won the parent lottery with Mom and Dad and to just knock it off. They are old now and it’s unfair to point your bony finger of blame at them, just because you made poor life choices.
She didn’t talk to me for a long spell, but something must have sunk in because she stopped harassing Mom and Dad.
Sounds like it is definitely time yo see your therapist. And I hate to say it, but cutting your daughter off until she gets help may be best. She’s just causing damage and not taking support. She only wants money.
And I have schizophrenia, but never once pointed blame in my parent’s direction.
Dad thinks he is responsible for my affliction but I told him that I loved him and no…that my condition is like an unnatural occurrence, having nothing to do with my upbringing.
Sounds like she calls you a bad mother just to try to blackmail you, in a sense, to get what she wants.
I’m glad you recognized her attempt at manipulation.
I’m sorry you have to go through this ((hugs))
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