When my brother and I were teens my dad said this in front of us. My dad is pretty mean and has no empathy, so I just always go to my mother who listens to us kids better.
My step dad used to toss me around like a rag doll, I have permanent shoulder pain and mild recurring fibromayalgia because of it.
That’s a very outdated form of parenting at least in the USA.
My mom’s cool though, and they’ve been divorced for like twenty years. I don’t blame her for staying with him anymore, gotta let go of that kind of grudge to have a good relationship in the future.
I’m sorry to hear that. My dad has always been violent and when we were kids he would go into fits of rage and scream at the top of his lungs. He never was personable or approachable and still to this day, he’s like that, despite the fact that he’s 70 years old now.
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What makes a person like that? I mean they say if you get abused sometimes you abuse others, but I’m a very gentle person and I got abused a lot. Sometimes I think the anger is genetic. One of my brothers (technically half brother, my stepdad is his biological dad) has a similar temper.
I’m surprised my stepdad hasn’t had a heart attack with how worked up he gets when he’s angry.
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Sounds a lot like my dad when he was younger. My dad never spent time with me and my brother when we were kids. I never had a good father figure in my life.
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Was he out working a lot?
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Yeah he was always at work and would take out his frustration with his job home to us kids and take it out on us.
I grew up in a strict right wing conservative family and my dad was always into politics and never paid any attention to us kids. We were also forced to go to church and do things like confession even though we did nothing wrong.
Most of my childhood I spent hiding from my dad because he was never in a good mood, and there was never a good time to approach him when you needed something.
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My stepdad stayed home while my mom worked, and when I got home from school he’d shove my little brother off on me and go smoke weed in the basement. My brother would miss him and start crying and whenever that happened my stepdad would come up and get angry at me. My job was to keep my brother quiet no matter what. Also, my brother was his kid, and I wasn’t, so there was obvious favoritism. My mom didn’t get home until two hours after I got back from school so those were some tough hours every day.
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He was also very stingy and never let us have anything nice. I always had to go to my mother if I ever needed anything.
He also got a lot of his abusive ideas from a religious group on people called “The Bread of Life community”
They had my older brothers chop a chickens head off when they were little.
After that incident my mother pushed my dad to stay away from the Bread of Life community, because the people in that group were abusive, and used my dad’s gullible mind to keep him hooked.
Sorry to hear about your dad. It sucks when those who are meant to nurture you in an important developmental time in your life treat you that way. Sounds like you at least had a nice mother though.
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Both my parents had mental issues and had to take antidepressants and they still take them to this day.
My mother was more nurturing than my dad but once I became a teen she couldn’t support us kids and would call the police on us and send us away for months in mental hospitals where we were abused even more. My mom also tricked my younger brother into pressing charges against me a few months after turning 18. I found out years later that the bruises on my younger brothers back were self inflicted. I now have a permanent criminal record.
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oh that isn’t ideal, I am sorry to hear that. Is there no way to get rid of it?
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I can’t have my record expunged or sealed as far as I know.
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is it possible to get jobs with criminal record where you live?
(I nearly got a criminal record too at one point but luckily she dropped charges, I bit a policewoman.)
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I much harder to find a job now that I have this record. It’s possible to get a job with my criminal record, but it makes for a long story that employers will just see as an excuse, or they will throw my resume into the trash before even considering it.
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I see. Hopefully you will be lucky in the future, if you don’t have a job atm, and if you would be able to.
finding a job is so difficult, even just the huge gap in employment itself makes it difficult on its own.
I hope I get job in the future because I don’t like sitting at home all day
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